This is Myth 9 of 27 Myths about divorce that aren't likely to be true of committed Christians who love God and take their faith seriously. These messages make us worry if we're pleasing God. They contain little accusations that our motives aren't right. They make us second-guess ourselves when we try to get ourselves and our children to safety. Many of us have heard these messages all our lives and wanted to avoid them.  So although these myths may be true for people who are selfish or immature, they aren't true for a person who invested their heart and soul into the relationship, even when the other person didn't.  See all the myths on one page. See the next myth.

MYTH 9: You can't demand good treatment. Christians have no rights.

TRUTH: It is godly and biblical to call for justice and loving treatment for ourselves and others.

Similar to the teaching of "sin-leveling" (which we discussed in Myth 8) is the concept that we as Christians have no rights. This false belief says: Due to our sin, we deserve only judgment from God.

Then this teaching is stretched to further include the idea that we also deserve nothing good from anyone else in the world. It strongly implies that Christians aren’t allowed to speak up when they are being abused, cheated, or injured.

This teaching is nonsense.

When an abusive spouse denies your biblical right to faithfulness, respect, and care, this is a sign that something is not right. Beware of those who ignore your claims and silence you by invoking a “no talk” rule or a “no gossip” rule and try to keep you from telling the authorities, friends, and clergy.

When you have no voice and no power to shine the spotlight on injury, you are being silenced. your mouth for the mute, for the rights of all who are destitute.

Open your mouth, judge righteously,
defend the rights of the poor and needy.
—Proverbs 31:8-9 (ESV)

Give justice to the weak…
maintain the right of the afflicted and the destitute.
—Psalm 82:3 (ESV)

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