by gbaskerville | Feb 16, 2022 | Adultery and Infidelity, Christians and Divorce, Gaslighting Examples, Myths
This is Myth 7 of 27 Myths about marriage and divorce that aren't likely to be true of people who love God and take their faith seriously. These messages make us worry if we're pleasing God. They contain little accusations that our motives aren't right. They make us...
by gbaskerville | Jun 16, 2021 | Abuse examples, Adultery and Infidelity, Christians and Divorce, Standers
CAN I DIVORCE AFTER SAYING “FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE”? When committed people of faith promise "for better or for worse" in our wedding vows, we take those words seriously. We believe that marriage is holy, undefiled, loving, and lifelong. That's why both people...
by gbaskerville | Jun 16, 2021 | Abuse examples, Adultery and Infidelity, Christians and Divorce, Standers
DOES “FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE” MEAN I CANNOT DIVORCE? When committed people of faith promise "for better or for worse" in our wedding vows, we take those words seriously. . They mean we promise to stay during the ups and downs of life. . But do our vows mean we...
by gbaskerville | Jun 8, 2021 | Adultery and Infidelity, Christians and Divorce, First-person stories
What Did You Do With Your Wedding Dress or Tuxedo After Divorce? In June 2021, there was an informal poll in my private Facebook Group: Life-Saving Divorce for Separated or Divorced Christians. Both men and women participated in the poll. See more than 50 ideas and...
by gbaskerville | Apr 30, 2021 | Adultery and Infidelity, Christians and Divorce, For Pastors, Gaslighting Examples, Myths, Standers
5 MYTHS OF DIVORCE THAT DON'T APPLY TO COMMITTED CHRISTIANS (OR TO OTHER DEEPLY RELIGIOUS PEOPLE) Let’s face it, well-meaning friends and family and even counselors give us advice on fixing our marriages: Try harder, pray more, be more agreeable, have more sex. But...
by gbaskerville | Apr 18, 2021 | Abuse examples, Adultery and Infidelity, For Pastors, What is a Life-Saving Divorce?
Summary: This article gives 3 ways you can know if your abusive or addicted or cheating or lying spouse has really changed. Or watch the 20-min. video version on YouTube. About Me: I’ve been a Christian divorce recovery leader in conservative churches since 1998. For...
by gbaskerville | Nov 3, 2020 | Abuse examples, Adultery and Infidelity, Christians and Divorce, Gaslighting Examples, High-Conflict Divorces
130 Examples of Abuse and Control Overt and Covert Physical, Emotional, Sexual, Financial and Spiritual Abuse and Neglect From the book, The Life-Saving Divorce by Gretchen Baskerville. © 2020 Life Saving Press LLC All rights reserved. No part of this...
by gbaskerville | Sep 1, 2020 | Adultery and Infidelity, First-person stories, High-Conflict Divorces
What Did You Do With Your Wedding and Engagement Ring After Divorce? In August 2020, there was an informal poll on my private Facebook Group: Life-Saving Divorce for Separated or Divorced Christians. Both men and women participated in the poll. See their 25 ideas and...
by gbaskerville | Jul 29, 2020 | Adultery and Infidelity, Christians and Divorce
If you're new to my blog, read this first. I'm a committed Christian who started leading Christian divorce recovery groups in Evangelical churches in 1998. I write about "life-saving divorces," those divorces that are for very serious reasons. "Life-saving divorces"...
by gbaskerville | Apr 10, 2020 | Adultery and Infidelity, Christians and Divorce, Do I have biblical grounds for divorce?
What does a Christian do when adultery is discovered? We were taught to value the sanctity of marriage. We learned that marriage was for life, and that God can save any marriage. But does that mean we required to smooth it over and "forgive and forget" over and over?...
