Many Christian leaders enjoy quoting the study Does Divorce Make People Happy? from the Institute for American Values, often proclaiming, “Two out of three unhappily married...
High-Conflict Divorces
The Institute for American Values on Divorce: Why Sticking It Out Isn’t Always the Answer
Many people like to quote the study "Does Divorce Make People Happy?" from The Institute for American Values, proudly claiming, “Two out of three unhappily married adults who...
Did Forbes Really Say “Lack Of Commitment” Is the Top Reason For Divorce?
Did Forbes Really Say "Lack Of Commitment" Is the Top Reason For Divorce? Recently I saw the graph "Top Reasons for Divorce" on the Forbes Advisor website, and my heart sank. The...
Is Jordan Peterson Right about Women and Divorce?
Is Jordan Peterson Right about Women and Divorce in This Video? This week's question comes from a woman in my co-ed online divorce recovery group, the Life-Saving Divorce, made...
Do Women File for Divorce 70%-80% of the Time?
Do women file 70-80% of divorces in the U.S.? It's probably not quite as high as 70%, but it's close. According to Stanford professor Dr. Michael Rosenfeld's 2017 study, about...
Divorce Tips: 10 Ways To Stay In Touch With Your Children When They Are With The Other Parent
Question of the Day from a Divorced Mother of Young Children with Shared Custody: "Is there a preferred phone, app, or texting application that you have given your young child so...
Hope Restored: What Do They Teach About Kids and Divorce
Hope Restored Marriage Intensives Want to Scare You About Divorce and Children I'm doing a multi-part series HOPE RESTORED marriage intensives from #FocusOnTheFamily. Are their...
12 Positive Outcomes of Divorce that Nobody Told Us
12 POSITIVE OUTCOMES OF LIFE-SAVING DIVORCES...THAT NOBODY TOLD US Believe it or not, most Americans place a high value on marriage. We long for a marriage that is loving,...
Lundy Bancroft: Why Mothers Are Losing Custody of Their Kids to Abusers, and What You Can Do About It
Why Mothers are Losing Custody of their Kids to Abusers, and What You Can Do About It Interview with Lundy Bancroft, the bestselling author of Why Does He Do That? Inside...
Critique: “The Effects of Divorce On Children,” a Focus on the Family Video
Critique: "The Effects of Divorce On Children" Video by Focus on the Family 12 Mistakes in this Video This is a critique of the new video, "The Effects of Divorce On...
What is a Flying Monkey? (In the Divorce Context)
What is a Flying Monkey? In a divorce, a "flying monkey" is an ally your ex-spouse has won to their side. Often they start by driving a wedge between you and this person by...
Critique: “Marriage is Hard. Divorce is Hard. Choose Your Hard.”
Critique of the Saying, "Marriage is Hard. Divorce is Hard. Choose Your Hard" There's a meme going around the internet and it starts with the line "Marriage is Hard....
How to Defend Yourself against “You Made Your Bed; Now Lie in It”
How to Defend Yourself against "You Made Your Bed; Now Lie in It" 3 Reasons You Didn't See Warning Signs or Red Flags The surest sign that a person is a fake friend is one who...
15 Steps to Start the Divorce Process if You Need a Life-Saving Divorce
15 Steps to Starting the Divorce Process, if You Need a Life-Saving Divorce First, make sure you (and the kids) are safe. If your spouse has weapons or has a...
How To Tell the Kids About The Divorce
HOW DO WE TELL THE KIDS ABOUT OUR DIVORCE? Note: This article is for difficult divorces, not for amicable divorces. Many books and articles recommend that you and the...
12 Ways to Document Financial Issues and Child Support in a Divorce or Separation
How to Document Child Support and Expenses and Protect Yourself in Divorce or Separation Fewer than half of ex-spouses who are required to pay child support actually do pay it...
Creating a Victim Impact Statement for a High-Conflict Divorce
How to Document Abuse/Neglect for Your Victim Impact Statement (Part of this is an excerpt from Chapter 7 of the book, The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope For People Leaving...
Does the Waite and Gallagher Study Really Say Your Marriage Will Become Happy If You Stay 5 Years? No!
Pastors, Christian marriage authors, and Christian radio programs like to quote the study by Dr. Linda Waite and journalist Maggie Gallagher, who found, "Two out of three...
Lundy Bancroft Interview: Why Does He Do That?
Lundy Bancroft is one of the best authors and speakers on the topic of abusive men in romantic relationships and how to know if they've changed. In this video, created and...
Escape Plan: 50-Item Checklist
Escape Plan: If You Are Thinking About Leaving (UPDATED Aug 2021) An important note: These are basic lists for people who are in difficult relationships but not in physical...
130 Examples of Abuse: Physical, Emotional, Sexual, Spiritual, Financial and Neglect
130 Examples of Abuse and Control Overt and Covert Physical, Emotional, Sexual, Financial and Spiritual Abuse and Neglect From the book, The Life-Saving Divorce by...