Wayne Grudem Changed His Mind on Abuse, Divorce, and Remarriage Dr. Wayne Grudem’s acceptance of divorce and remarriage after abuse is revolutionary precisely because he is Wayne...
Christians and Divorce
Romans 7 Does Not Teach “Marriage Ends Only at Death”
Romans 7 Does Not Teach “Marriage Ends Only at Death” One argument against divorce that I hear occasionally goes like this: Romans 7 says a wife is bound to her husband as long...
What Many Christians Were Never Told: The ACE Study, Abuse, and Divorce
What Many Christians Were Never Told About the Large 1998 ACE Study Many Christians have never even heard of the Adverse Childhood Experiences study published in 1998, much less...
The Marriage Looked Fine from the Outside—So Why Was It Killing Me?
When a Marriage Looks Fine but Is Quietly Destroying You Sometimes the marriage that looks “fine” from the outside is slowly crushing the person living inside it. Not because...
Safety Is Biblical: When a Marriage Becomes Harmful
Getting to Safety Is Biblical When a Marriage Becomes Harmful Almost every time I say, “Safety is biblical,” someone pushes back and brings up one of the standard objections. So...
Tim Challies Tells Christians to Stay in Bad Marriages. That Is Dangerous
Tim Challies Tells Christians to Stay in Bad Marriages. That Is Dangerous Counsel. Summary: A critique of the January 2026 article To Those Who Married Poorly, including a...
Can the Innocent Spouse Remarry? This Biblical Scholar Says Yes
Why Dr. David Instone-Brewer believes Jesus condemned invalid divorce—not every remarriage Dr. David Instone-Brewer believes that remarriage after a valid divorce is permitted....
75% of Divorced People Are Happy (GSS 2024)—So Why Does the Church Say the Opposite?
Here’s Why That Misery Message Persists—Even When the Data Says Otherwise I often hear church leaders and Christian organizations repeat a familiar warning: Divorced people are...
When Divorce Is Called “Violence” but Abuse Is Not: What Sermons Reveal
When Divorce Is Called “Violence” but Abuse Is Not Dr. Valerie Hobbs, a linguist and senior lecturer at the University of Sheffield in the U.K., has spent years studying how...
1 Corinthians 7:10 Explained: What Paul Meant About Separation and Remarriage
What Did Paul Really Mean in 1 Corinthians 7:10? Understanding His Command to the Woman Few passages about marriage create more confusion than 1 Corinthians 7:10–11. Paul writes:...
27 Ways Churches Gaslight Abuse and Betrayal Victims (And the Biblical Truth)
27 Ways Churches Gaslight Marital Abuse and Betrayal Victims Faith should be a refuge. But when someone is being abused or betrayed, church culture can accidentally (or...
What the LifeWay Divorce Study Reveals — And Why Focus on the Family Isn’t Talking About It
The LifeWay Divorce Study: What the Data Reveals — And What Focus on the Family Hasn’t Addressed In 2015, LifeWay Research conducted a national survey of 1,000 churchgoers who...
5 Ways Christian Marriage Advice Goes Wrong in Destructive Marriages
How Christian Marriage Advice Goes Wrong in Destructive Marriages Why “Change Your Tone” Can Shift Responsibility Off the Offender In healthy marriages, advice about attitude and...
Gray Rock Method Explained for Christian Divorce and Co-Parenting
What Is Gray Rock? A Strategy for Handling a Destructive Person Sometimes you cannot go No Contact. If you share minor children with a destructive ex, you may be legally required...
Unconditional Love in Marriage Does Not Mean Enduring Abuse
Unconditional Love in Marriage: What It Is — and What It Is Not Unconditional love is one of the most beautiful truths in Christianity. It is also one of the most misunderstood....
Joseph and Potiphar’s Wife: Resisting Sexual Harassment and Assault
Joseph and Potiphar’s Wife: Resisting Sexual Harassment and Assault (Genesis 39) Update: I’ve written a shorter, search-friendly version of this article here: Is It Sexual...
Are “Traditional Marriage Vows” Biblical? How Focus on the Family Misuses Them
Focus on the Family’s “5 Traditional Marriage Vows”: Are These Even Biblical — and How Are They Misused? Recent Focus on the Family social media and article present five phrases...
The #GreaterThan Campaign’s Divorce Pivot Misses the Hardest Truth
Divorce Hurts Kids—But Abuse Hurts Them More (A Response to the #GreaterThan Campaign’s Divorce Pivot) This post responds to the campaign’s claim that “divorce hurts kids” by...
Christian Divorce Testimonies: Does God Bring Couples Back Together?
Christian Divorce Testimonies: Does God Bring Couples Back Together? A Question Survivors Ask With Trembling Hope One of the most common questions I hear is: “Are there any...
Epstein, Dobson, and the Theology That Protects Abusers
🚨 Why Epstein Found James Dobson Useful — and Why Focus on the Family Still Does The Epstein files contained a detail that should stop Christians cold. For audio narration in...
Who’s Speaking in the #GreaterThan Campaign Video—and Why Context Matters
Who Is Speaking—and Why This Context Matters The #GreaterThan campaign is a coordinated media and messaging effort launched in January 2026 in response to Obergefell v. Hodges....