You Are Not Sinning by Refusing to Care for Someone Who Harmed You Why the Bible Does Not Require Survivors to Become Caretakers After writing about why an abused or betrayed...
Christians and Divorce
Safety-First vs. Marriage-First Counseling
Safety-First vs. Marriage-First Counseling How to screen counselors—and protect yourself—when your marriage may be unsafe Most people who reach out for marriage counseling aren’t...
Is Gary Chapman’s Marriage Advice Safe for Abuse Victims? A Critical Review of Focus on the Family’s Claims and Credentials
Every time Gary Chapman gives marriage advice, abusive husbands pick up new ideas for manipulating their wives — and his new Focus on the Family interview, “How to Have a Better...
Christian Man Uses Abuse Tactics to Shame Victims on a Domestic-Violence Post
I posted this statement and meme on Facebook—and got an interesting comment (below): [original post] Too many churches still teach that divorce isn’t allowed in cases of abuse,...
Dear Focus on the Family, You Cannot Serve God and Money
It appears that Focus on the Family® wishes it could have it both ways—a glowing reputation for defending abuse victims and the steady flow of donations tied to being fiercely...
Weekend to Remember: Honest Stories from Real Attendees
Weekend to Remember: Honest Stories from Real Attendees This is my second collection of firsthand, anonymized reviews from Christians who attended Weekend to Remember (WTR), the...
Can a Weekend to Remember Marriage Retreat Fix a Bad Marriage?
🕊️ Weekend to Remember Marriage Retreat: Can it Fix a Bad Marriage? FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember (WTR) is one of the most recognizable Christian marriage retreats in the...
“I Wish I’d Left Sooner”: What Parents Say About Timing Their Divorce When Kids Are Involved
“I Wish I’d Left Sooner”: What Parents Say About Timing Their Divorce When Kids Are Involved One of the hardest questions parents in destructive marriages ask is: “Should I wait...
Hope Restored Marriage Intensive: Real Results From 44 Former Attendees
Hope Restored Marriage Intensive: Real Results From 44 Former Attendees As a Christian divorce recovery leader, I am asked frequently about marriage intensives. So I did a survey...
What are Grounds for Annulment in the Catholic Church?
Catholic Annulment: 21 Recognized Grounds Based on the 1983 Code of Canon Law and official Catholic sources [button...
Why Do the Wicked Seem to Be Blessed?
Why Do the Wicked Prosper? As a Christian divorce recovery leader for nearly 30 years, I’ve sat with countless women who left abusive marriages, desperate for safety and a chance...
The Top 10 No-Fault Divorce Myths and How to Refute Them
Experts Respond to 10 Common Critiques of No-Fault Divorce Let's separate the facts from the fear-bombs. This article addresses the common critiques of no-fault divorce, and...
6 PROS AND CONS OF NO-FAULT DIVORCE for Christians
PROS AND CONS OF NO-FAULT DIVORCE  Background: As a young conservative Christian, I was always taught that divorce was a sin, and that no-fault divorce ran counter to the...
Christians: Life After Divorce — Real Stories of Challenge, Healing, and Hope
I asked people in my private Facebook group for divorced Christians: "How has life changed?" Background: For nearly 30 years, I have been leading Christian divorce recovery...
“We Saw Five Christian Marriage Counselors, But Still Divorced”
Someone in my online Christian divorce group told me: "We saw five Christian marriage counselors—all of them with master's degrees and licenses—and we still divorced. Why...
A Teenager asks, “What is the Effect of Divorce on Children?”
On Instagram, a teenager messaged me, "What is the effect of divorce on children?"Â She was working on a school project. Here is my reply: Hi Marcella (not her real name),...
Quiz: Moral Injury & Christian Abuse Survivors who Divorce
Moral Injury and Christian Abuse Survivors who Divorce Scroll down to the Moral Injury Quiz below. What is Moral Injury? The concept of “Moral injury” refers to the...
Focus on the Family’s “PEDOPHILIA IN MARRIAGE” Article—10 Pros and 10 Cons UPDATED
Critique of the Focus on the Family article: "PEDOPHILIA in MARRIAGE" - UPDATED 10 Pros and 10 Cons about their Advice . (Summary: Does Focus on the Family's article"Pedophilia...
12 Ways to Help a Christian Who is Being Abused by Their Spouse
HOW TO HELP A FAMILY MEMBER WHO IS BEING EMOTIONALLY, SEXUALLY, SPIRITUALLY, OR FINANCIALLY ABUSED—BUT WON’T LEAVE FOR RELIGIOUS REASONS A woman contacted me, seeking advice on...
No Contact versus The Silent Treatment: Definition and Quiz
What's the Difference Between No Contact and The Silent Treatment? People often wonder: What does it mean that my spouse is refusing to talk? Is my husband or wife using "gray...
Review of “The Power of a Praying Wife” by Stormie Omartian
VIDEO REVIEWÂ of THE POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE by Stormie Omartian For people wondering why so many Christian women say that "The Power of a Praying Wife" book is destructive...