Divorce Wasn’t “Easy.” For Many, It Took Years. When policymakers talk about making divorce harder, they often seem to imagine careless people casually walking away from decent...
Christians and Divorce
His Needs, Her Needs Review: Helpful Advice, Dangerous Framework
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly in His Needs, Her Needs Willard F. Harley Jr.’s His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage includes the typical good advice for...
7 Dangerous Teachings in Lies Women Believe That Can Harm Abused Wives
Seven of the Most Troubling Teachings in Lies Women Believe, by Nancy Leigh DeMoss Wolgemuth The book Lies Women Believe is not dangerous because of one isolated sentence. It is...
7 Shocking Signs Your Pastor Is Helping Your Abuser
7 Shocking Signs Your Pastor Is Helping Your Abuser How to Know You’ve Got a Bad Pastor When You’re in an Abusive Marriage A good pastor does not need to be perfect. He does not...
If Divorce Ruins Children, How Did Jim Daly Become Focus on the Family’s President?
Jim Daly’s Life Exposes the Problem with Focus on the Family’s Divorce Narrative By Gretchen Baskerville Focus on the Family often warns that divorce devastates children for...
Hosea Is Not a Marriage Manual for Betrayed Spouses
Hosea Is Prophetic Symbolism, Not a Marriage Manual When I post about some divorces being biblical, I get comments such as this one: “Read the Book of Hosea,” as if Hosea’s...
Divorce Is Good Sometimes: Biblical Covenants, Bondage, and Deliverance
Divorce Is Good Sometimes Most of us wish divorce were never necessary. I certainly do. Marriage was meant to be loving, undefiled, protective, and lifelong. But sometimes a...
Open Letter to Russell Moore: Why Some Divorces Are Acts of Biblical Deliverance
Open Letter to Russell Moore: Divorce as God’s Protection of Abused and Betrayed Spouses This is an updated version of the email I sent to Russell Moore two weeks ago. Dear...
Do Children Resent the Parent Who Leaves a Destructive Marriage? Not Necessarily.
Do Children Resent the Parent Who Leaves a Destructive Marriage? What Two Community Polls Can—and Cannot—Tell Us We've always been told they do. But these two polls suggest the...
Judith Wallerstein, Wayne Grudem, and What the Divorce Study Really Said
What Wayne Grudem Overstates in Judith Wallerstein Thirty years ago, in 1996, Wayne Grudem did an analysis of Judith Wallerstein’s second book, Second Chances, one of three books...
Wayne Grudem Supports Divorce and Remarriage after Abuse, Adultery, Abandonment
Wayne Grudem Changed His Mind on Abuse, Divorce, and Remarriage Dr. Wayne Grudem’s acceptance of divorce and remarriage after abuse is revolutionary precisely because he is Wayne...
Romans 7 Does Not Teach “Marriage Ends Only at Death”
Romans 7 Does Not Teach “Marriage Ends Only at Death” One argument against divorce that I hear occasionally goes like this: Romans 7 says a wife is bound to her husband as long...
What Many Christians Were Never Told: The ACE Study, Abuse, and Divorce
What Many Christians Were Never Told About the Large 1998 ACE Study Many Christians have never even heard of the Adverse Childhood Experiences study published in 1998, much less...
The Marriage Looked Fine from the Outside—So Why Was It Killing Me?
When a Marriage Looks Fine but Is Quietly Destroying You Sometimes the marriage that looks “fine” from the outside is slowly crushing the person living inside it. Not because...
Safety Is Biblical: When a Marriage Becomes Harmful
Getting to Safety Is Biblical When a Marriage Becomes Harmful Almost every time I say, “Safety is biblical,” someone pushes back and brings up one of the 8 standard objections....
Tim Challies Tells Christians to Stay in Bad Marriages. That Is Dangerous
Tim Challies Tells Christians to Stay in Bad Marriages. That Is Dangerous Counsel. Summary: A critique of the January 2026 article To Those Who Married Poorly, including a...
Can the Innocent Spouse Remarry? This Biblical Scholar Says Yes
Why Dr. David Instone-Brewer believes Jesus condemned invalid divorce—not every remarriage Dr. David Instone-Brewer believes that remarriage after a valid divorce is permitted....
75% of Divorced People Are Happy (GSS 2024)—So Why Does the Church Say the Opposite?
Here’s Why That Misery Message Persists—Even When the Data Says Otherwise I often hear church leaders and Christian organizations repeat a familiar warning: Divorced people are...
When Divorce Is Called “Violence” but Abuse Is Not: What Sermons Reveal
When Divorce Is Called “Violence” but Abuse Is Not Dr. Valerie Hobbs, a linguist and senior lecturer at the University of Sheffield in the U.K., has spent years studying how...
1 Corinthians 7:10 Explained: What Paul Meant About Separation and Remarriage
What Did Paul Really Mean in 1 Corinthians 7:10? Understanding His Command to the Woman Few passages about marriage create more confusion than 1 Corinthians 7:10–11. Paul writes:...
27 Ways Churches Gaslight Abuse and Betrayal Victims (And the Biblical Truth)
27 Ways Churches Gaslight Marital Abuse and Betrayal Victims Faith should be a refuge. But when someone is being abused or betrayed, church culture can accidentally (or...