Checklist: How to Tell if an Abusive or Deceptive Partner Has Really Changed Note: Don't give this list to the abuser or cheater. See why at the end. People often assume that an...
Gaslighting Examples
27 Ways Churches Gaslight Abuse and Betrayal Victims (And the Biblical Truth)
27 Ways Churches Gaslight Marital Abuse and Betrayal Victims Faith should be a refuge. But when someone is being abused or betrayed, church culture can accidentally (or...
When “Leave and Cleave” Becomes Spiritual Abuse
When “Leave and Cleave” Becomes Spiritual Isolation Genesis 2:24 says a man shall “leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife.” Beautiful. Sacred. Good. But in some...
Why James Dobson’s Article Is So Useful to Predators
Why James Dobson’s Article Is So Useful to Predators Many people wonder why Jeffrey Epstein would recommend a James Dobson article to one of his victims. For audio summary in...
Lies Women Believe: Why This Christian Bestseller Endangers Abused Wives
Review of Lies Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss Wolgemuth Lies Women Believe has shaped Christian women’s Bible studies for more than two decades. It has been distributed at...
What Is DARVO? How Abuse Survivors Are Silenced by Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim Offender
What Is DARVO? How Harm Is Silenced by "Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim & Offender" Why You Feel Unheard When You Name Harm If you have ever told your story and mentioned...
Dr. Gary Chapman’s Double-Speak Blame Decoder
Dr. Gary Chapman’s Double-Speak Blame Decoder Dr. Gary Chapman is an evangelical pastor and bestselling author. A longtime speaker for Focus on the Family, he presents himself as...
Why Does My Abuser Seem Blessed After Divorce?
Why Does My Abuser Seem Blessed After Divorce? Why does an abusive ex seem to thrive while survivors struggle? As a Christian divorce recovery leader for nearly 30 years, I’ve...
Why Trying to Fix an Abuser Doesn’t Work
The Hard Truths about Abusers: Myths, Motives, and Recognizing Reality The Myth that the Victim's Unconditional Love will Cure Them So many women and men who reach out for help...
“We Saw Five Christian Marriage Counselors, But Still Divorced”
Someone in my online Christian divorce group told me: "We saw five Christian marriage counselors—all of them with master's degrees and licenses—and we still divorced. Why...
No Contact versus The Silent Treatment: Definition and Quiz
What's the Difference Between No Contact and The Silent Treatment? People often wonder: What does it mean that my spouse is refusing to talk? Is my husband or wife using "gray...
How Can I Claim to be the Innocent Spouse? I Had My Faults Too!
Who Destroyed the Marriage? Recently in my private Facebook group, we were talking about "Who destroyed the marriage?" In half of the divorces in the United States, one spouse...
Marriage Myth: It Takes “Two to Tango” and “All Marriage Problems are 50/50”
This is Myth 7 of 27 Myths about marriage and divorce that aren't likely to be true of people who love God and take their faith seriously. These messages make us worry if we're...
What is J.A.D.E. and Gray Rock?
J.A.D.E., Gray Rock, and How to Stop Feeding a Toxic Person’s Need for Conflict Toxic people crave arguments. They love to challenge you, attack you, and pull you into endless...
Why You Didn’t See the Red Flags — And Why It’s Not Your Fault
Abusive Marriage? It Might Not Be Your Fault You Didn’t See the Red Flags For a short audio summary, listen here: Many survivors are told—by others or by their own inner...
Review of “Lies Women Believe” by Nancy Leigh DeMoss Wolgemuth
Review of the book "Lies Women Believe" by Nancy Leigh DeMoss, a book commonly used in Christian Bible studies and churches' small groups.TL;DR Summary: In this book, the author...
“Why Didn’t You Just Leave?” 50 Abused Wives & Husbands Explain
50 Abused Wives and Husbands Answer the Question: "Why Did You Stay So Long?" People wonder why abused women and men stay with a dangerous spouse for so long. I asked...
15 Questions Before Divorce: What This Popular Christian Article Leaves Out
15 Questions Before Divorce: What Focus on the Family’s Popular Article Leaves Out Focus on the Family published an article in 2020 titled “Is Divorce the Right Answer? 15...
Toxic People Love to Argue
Toxic people crave arguments! They love to challenge you and attack you, because they love being the center of attention. So any time they can tempt you to interact with...
Top 5 Myths About Divorce that Don’t Apply to Christians and Others of Deep Faith
5 MYTHS OF DIVORCE THAT DON'T APPLY TO COMMITTED CHRISTIANS (OR TO OTHER DEEPLY RELIGIOUS PEOPLE) Let’s face it, well-meaning friends and family and even counselors give us...
Lundy Bancroft Interview: Why Does He Do That?
Lundy Bancroft is one of the best authors and speakers on the topic of abusive men in romantic relationships and how to know if they've changed. In this video, created and...