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Is Your Spouse Lying? Why Lies Are So Hard to See
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Is Your Spouse Lying? What Are the Lies Protecting?
Is Your Spouse Lying? Pay Attention, Because Chronic Lying Is Not a Normal in Marriage Part 1: Research shows that good spouses lie very little — so what are the lies protecting?...
Is This Abuse? 130 Overt and Covert Warning Signs
Is This Abuse? 130 Overt and Covert Warning Signs Not all abuse is physical. Not all abuse is loud. Some abuse slowly wears you down until you barely recognize yourself. This...
Emotional Abuse IS Physical Abuse: More Than 80 Examples from Medical Science
Emotional Abuse IS Physical Abuse More precisely: emotional abuse can become physical abuse in the body. The body processes emotional abuse much like it does physical abuse,...
How to Tell if an Abusive or Deceptive Partner Has Really Changed
Checklist: How to Tell if an Abusive or Deceptive Partner Has Really Changed Note: Don't give this list to the abuser or cheater. See why at the end. People often assume that an...
27 Ways Churches Gaslight Abuse and Betrayal Victims (And the Biblical Truth)
27 Ways Churches Gaslight Marital Abuse and Betrayal Victims Faith should be a refuge. But when someone is being abused or betrayed, church culture can accidentally (or...
When “Leave and Cleave” Becomes Spiritual Abuse
When “Leave and Cleave” Becomes Spiritual Isolation Genesis 2:24 says a man shall “leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife.” Beautiful. Sacred. Good. But in some...
Why James Dobson’s Article Is So Useful to Predators
Why James Dobson’s Article Is So Useful to Predators Many people wonder why Jeffrey Epstein would recommend a James Dobson article to one of his victims. For audio summary in...
Lies Women Believe: Why This Christian Bestseller Endangers Abused Wives
Review of Lies Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss Wolgemuth Lies Women Believe has shaped Christian women’s Bible studies for more than two decades. It has been distributed at...
What Is DARVO? How Abuse Survivors Are Silenced by Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim Offender
What Is DARVO? How Harm Is Silenced by "Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim & Offender" Why You Feel Unheard When You Name Harm If you have ever told your story and mentioned...
Dr. Gary Chapman’s Double-Speak Blame Decoder
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Why Does My Abuser Seem Blessed After Divorce?
Why Does My Abuser Seem Blessed After Divorce? Why does an abusive ex seem to thrive while survivors struggle? As a Christian divorce recovery leader for nearly 30 years, I’ve...
Why Trying to Fix an Abuser Doesn’t Work
The Hard Truths about Abusers: Myths, Motives, and Recognizing Reality The Myth that the Victim's Unconditional Love will Cure Them So many women and men who reach out for help...
“We Saw Five Christian Marriage Counselors, But Still Divorced”
Someone in my online Christian divorce group told me: "We saw five Christian marriage counselors—all of them with master's degrees and licenses—and we still divorced. Why...
No Contact versus The Silent Treatment: Definition and Quiz
What’s the Difference Between No Contact and The Silent Treatment? People often wonder: What does it mean when someone refuses to talk to me? Are they using “gray rock” or “no...
How Can I Claim to be the Innocent Spouse? I Had My Faults Too!
Who Destroyed the Marriage? Recently in my private Facebook group, we were talking about "Who destroyed the marriage?" In half of the divorces in the United States, one spouse...
Marriage Myth: It Takes “Two to Tango” and “All Marriage Problems are 50/50”
This is Myth 7 of 27 Myths about marriage and divorce that aren't likely to be true of people who love God and take their faith seriously. These messages make us worry if we're...
What is J.A.D.E. and Gray Rock?
J.A.D.E., Gray Rock, and How to Stop Feeding a Toxic Person’s Need for Conflict Toxic people crave arguments. They love to challenge you, attack you, and pull you into endless...
Why You Didn’t See the Red Flags — And Why It’s Not Your Fault
Abusive Marriage? It Might Not Be Your Fault You Didn’t See the Red Flags For a short audio summary, listen here: Many survivors are told—by others or by their own inner...
Review of “Lies Women Believe” by Nancy Leigh DeMoss Wolgemuth
Review of the book "Lies Women Believe" by Nancy Leigh DeMoss, a book commonly used in Christian Bible studies and churches' small groups.TL;DR Summary: In this book, the author...