Critics Push Back: Answering 7 Objections to How Gary Chapman Talks About His Wife, Karolyn Dec 13, 2025 — When I published my recent article examining how marriage educator Dr....
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The Surprising Way Dr. Gary Chapman Talks About His Wife, Karolyn — And Why It Matters
The Surprising Way Dr. Gary Chapman Talks About His Wife, Karolyn — And Why It Matters For decades, Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, has been held up as the...
Weekend to Remember: Honest Stories from Real Attendees
Weekend to Remember: Honest Stories from Real Attendees This is my second collection of firsthand, anonymized reviews from Christians who attended Weekend to Remember (WTR), the...
“I Wish I’d Left Sooner”: What Parents Say About Timing Their Divorce When Kids Are Involved
“I Wish I’d Left Sooner”: What Parents Say About Timing Their Divorce When Kids Are Involved One of the hardest questions parents in destructive marriages ask is: “Should I wait...
When “Restoring Hope” Meant Losing Safety: Patricia’s Story and the Hidden Cost of Christian Marriage Therapy
When “Restoring Hope” Meant Losing Safety: Patricia’s Story and the Hidden Cost of Christian Marriage Therapy Editor’s note (sources & ethics). Names and identifying details...
Christians: Life After Divorce — Real Stories of Challenge, Healing, and Hope
I asked people in my private Facebook group for divorced Christians: "How has life changed?" Background: For nearly 30 years, I have been leading Christian divorce recovery...
12 Ways to Help a Christian Who is Being Abused by Their Spouse
HOW TO HELP A FAMILY MEMBER WHO IS BEING EMOTIONALLY, SEXUALLY, SPIRITUALLY, OR FINANCIALLY ABUSED—BUT WON’T LEAVE FOR RELIGIOUS REASONS A woman contacted me, seeking advice on...
Gray Divorce: One Woman Tells Her Story
Why Do So Many Retirees and People in Long Marriages Get a Gray Divorce? While interviewing Christian divorcees for my book, I met two women over age 65 who shared their stories...
Critique: Focus on the Family’s TikTok on Single Mothers and Brain Trauma
Several people have been very concerned about a problematic 60-second TikTok video from Focus on the Family (2/10/2024) that appeared to teach that single mothers have serious...
He Never Hit Me: Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Marriage
HE NEVER HIT ME: SIGNS OF AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE MARRIAGE I interviewed Cindy Burrell who is the author of the book, "Why Is He So Mean to Me?" and a writer on the topic...
How To Tell the Kids About The Divorce
HOW DO WE TELL THE KIDS ABOUT OUR DIVORCE? Note: This article is for difficult divorces, not for amicable divorces. Many books and articles recommend that you and the...
Why Does She Stay In An Abusive Marriage? 50 Women & Men Tell Why
50 Abused Wives and Husbands Answer the Question: "Why Did You Stay So Long?" People wonder why abused women and men stay with a dangerous spouse for so long. I asked...
Why Did I Stay So Long When I Had Serious Grounds for Divorce?
Why did I stay so long when I had 100% serious biblical grounds for divorce? I asked this question in my private Facebook group, and here are some of the answers I received...
Dating After Divorce When You Have Trust Issues
How Do You Date Again When You Have Trust Issues? Many of us are loving, kind, forgiving, and generous people. These wonderful traits make us excellent friends and excellent...
Should I Keep My Married Name After Divorce?
PROS and CONS: Keep Your Married Name After Divorce? Or No? In June 2021, there was an informal poll in my private Facebook Group: Life-Saving Divorce for Separated or Divorced...
Should I Go Back to My Maiden Name After Divorce?
POLL: Did You Go Back to Your Maiden Name or Keep Your Married Name After Divorce? Or Some Other Option? In June 2021, there was an informal poll in my private Facebook Group:...
25 Things to Do With Your Wedding Dress After Divorce
What Did You Do With Your Wedding Dress or Tuxedo After Divorce? In June 2021, there was an informal poll in my private Facebook Group: Life-Saving Divorce for Separated or...
Emerson Eggerichs’s Book Enables Abuse—Leading to Divorce
Summary: 25 reviews of Emerson Eggerichs's book Love and Respect by people who read the book. Most found it to be harmful. Many women say the book made their husbands feel...
David’s Story—Male Victims of Marital Abuse and Betrayal
Men can be victims of chronic abuse, betrayal, and neglect too. In this article, you'll read the stories of two men, David and John, who were both married to emotionally abusive...
When Your Friend Doesn’t Believe You’re Being Abused
What do you say if a dear Christian friend disagrees with your decision to divorce your destructive spouse? . What if they accuse you of making things up? . What if they are...
Good vs Bad Pastoral Counselors: Marital Abuse
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor Your Marriage Problems? In 2020, an informal Facebook survey question was posed to 800 Christians who were considering or had gotten a...