About Me: If you’re new to my blog, read this first. I started leading Christian divorce recovery groups in Evangelical churches in 1998. I write about “life-saving divorces,” those divorces that are for very serious reasons. “Life-Saving divorces” make up nearly half of divorces in the United States. Read the definition HERE. If you want to know why you should should have a nuanced view of divorce, see THIS. And here is the biblical rationale for condoning divorce. Although I believe many divorces are treacherous and/or sinful, I also believe a loving God gave divorce to protect the lives of his beloved people, who are made in his image, by allowing them to get out of destructive marriages.
Why Leaving might be Best for your Children
5 Studies to Bring Hope when You NEED a Divorce
- Will my kids likely have serious life-long harm if I divorce? (8 in 10 do not.)
- Are my kids likely to have teen pregnancy, be incarcerated, or die young? (No, fewer than 2 in 100 children from divorce homes experience this.)
- Are my kids likely to be suspended or expelled? (No, see graph.)
Click to see detail: Children of divorce are only slightly more likely to be suspended or expelled than children in married-parent homes (8% vs. 5%). Most kids in all family types are never suspended or expelled. Source: 2016 National Household Education Survey.
- Are my kids likely to divorce too? (No. The marriages of kids whose parents divorced are usually lifelong. Kids of divorce do have a slightly higher likelihood, but only 7%.)
- When is divorce good for kids, and when is it bad? (Divorce is good for kids if the marriage is abusive or high-conflict due to the bad behavior of one of the parents.)
All the researchers’ sources and citations are shown either in the images, below the graphs, or at the end of the video.
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