About Me: If you're new to my blog, read this first. I started leading Christian divorce recovery groups in Evangelical churches in 1998. I write about "life-saving divorces," those divorces that are for very serious reasons. "Life-Saving divorces" make up nearly half of divorces in the United States. Read the definition HERE.  If you want to know why you should should have a nuanced view of divorce, see THIS. And here is the biblical rationale for condoning divorce. Although I believe many divorces are treacherous and/or sinful, I also believe a loving God gave divorce to protect the lives of his beloved people, who are made in his image, by allowing them to get out of destructive marriages.

5 Questions Good Parents Ask, And 5 Studies to Bring Hope when You NEED a Divorce

1) Will my kids likely have serious life-long harm if I divorce?   (No, it's not likely at all. It's a minority who have any lifelong social, emotional or psychological problems.)
2) Are my kids likely to have drug/alcohol abuse problems?  (No. Only 5 in 100 kids from 2-parent families have substance abuse problems from age 12 to 17, and only 6 in 100 kids from single-mother families do.)
3) Are my kids likely to be suspended or expelled? (No.)
4) Are my kids likely to divorce too? (No. The marriages of kids who parents divorced are usually lifelong. Kids of divorce do have a bit higher likelihood, but only 7%.)
5) When is divorce good for kids, and when is it bad? (Divorce is good for kids if the marriage is abusive or high-conflict due to the bad behavior of one of the parents.)

BONUS: How much does staying in a home with emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, substance abuse, and mental illness in the home affect kids? (It affects them a lot more than we were told. It can do life-long damage to their health as adults.)

All the researchers' sources and citations are shown either in the images, below the graphs, or at the end of the video.

(For more on this topic, and more detail read chapter 7 in my book, The Life-Saving #Divorce.) #marriage #abuse #domesticviolence


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Physical and Emotional Abuse & Infidelity


God Allows Divorce to Protect Victims


How to Find a Good Supportive Church


What If My Pastor Says It Would Be Wrong to Get Divorced for Abuse?



Divorce Saves Lives: The Surprising (Wonderful!) Truth About Divorce Nobody Told You

Will I Ever Find Love Again? Dating After Divorce: Good News

Finding Happiness and Health After Divorce


Thriving After Divorce: These Christians Tell their Stories

Self-Doubt, Second-Guessing Ourselves, and Gaslighting


Children and Divorce: Researchers Give Hope


High Conflict Divorce and Parenting


Recommended Reading List and Free Resources for Christians and Other People of Faith


Common Myths






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