by gbaskerville | Feb 16, 2022 | Adultery and Infidelity, Christians and Divorce, Gaslighting Examples, Myths
This is Myth 7 of 27 Myths about marriage and divorce that aren't likely to be true of people who love God and take their faith seriously. These messages make us worry if we're pleasing God. They contain little accusations that our motives aren't right. They make us...
by gbaskerville | Feb 10, 2022 | Myths
NOTE: This is Myth 1 of 27 Myths about divorce that aren't likely to be true of people who love God and take their faith seriously. These messages make us worry if we're pleasing God. They contain little accusations that our motives aren't right. They make us...
by gbaskerville | Dec 31, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Gaslighting Examples, High-Conflict Divorces, Myths, Safe Churches & Friends
Critique of the Saying, “Marriage is Hard. Divorce is Hard. Choose Your Hard” There’s a meme going around the internet and it starts with the line “Marriage is Hard. Divorce is Hard. Choose Your Hard.” . This maxim annoys me. It was written by some smug person...
by gbaskerville | Dec 28, 2021 | Divorce and Children, Myths
If I Divorce, Will My Kid’s Marriage End in Divorce, Too? Most adults whose parents divorced do not divorce. They are likely to have lifelong marriages. The majority of people whose parents divorced have lifelong marriages. However, children from divorced homes...
by gbaskerville | Aug 22, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Do I have biblical grounds for divorce?, First-person stories, For Pastors, Myths, What is a Life-Saving Divorce?
50 Abused Wives and Husbands Answer the Question: “Why Did You Stay So Long?” People wonder why abused women and men stay with a dangerous spouse for so long. I asked people in my private Facebook group (Life-Saving Divorce for Separated and Divorced...
by gbaskerville | Aug 19, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Do I have biblical grounds for divorce?, First-person stories, For Pastors, Myths, What is a Life-Saving Divorce?
Why did I stay so long when I had 100% serious biblical grounds for divorce? I asked this question in my private Facebook group, and here are some of the answers I received (anonymized, of course, to protect people's safety). 1. Because I was taught...
by gbaskerville | Apr 30, 2021 | Adultery and Infidelity, Christians and Divorce, For Pastors, Gaslighting Examples, Myths, Standers
5 MYTHS OF DIVORCE THAT DON'T APPLY TO COMMITTED CHRISTIANS (OR TO OTHER DEEPLY RELIGIOUS PEOPLE) Let’s face it, well-meaning friends and family and even counselors give us advice on fixing our marriages: Try harder, pray more, be more agreeable, have more sex. But...
by gbaskerville | Mar 1, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Myths
Forgiveness Is Complex because Abuse, Betrayal, and Neglect Are Complex Not everything can be forgiven before the sun goes down. Nor should it. So how do we honor the Bible and at the same time honor our own need to process what's happened to us? Let’s say...
by gbaskerville | Mar 1, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Myths
Forgiveness Is Complex because Abuse, Betrayal, and Neglect Are Complex Let’s say your spouse slaps you on the face. If you were confident it was accidental—perhaps he/she was swatting a fly and missed—that would be easy to handle. But in the case of abuse, it's not...
by gbaskerville | Feb 28, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Myths
FORGIVENESS IS NOT SWEEPING EVERYTHING UNDER THE CARPET Forgiveness is not… Forgiveness is… Forgiveness is not letting the offender off scot-free. Forgiveness is holding the offender responsible, including requiring reparations and accepting the legal...
