This is Myth 1 of 27 Myths about divorce that aren't likely to be true of people who love God and take their faith seriously. These messages make us worry if we're pleasing God. They contain little accusations that our motives aren't right. They make us second-guess ourselves when we try to get ourselves and our children to safety. Many of us have heard these messages all our lives and wanted to avoid them.  So although these myths may be true for people who are selfish or immature, they aren't true for a person who invested their heart and soul into the relationship, even when the other person didn't.  See all the myths on one page. See the next myth.

Myth 1: You just fell out of love.   

TRUTH: No. Many divorces are life-saving.

This myth says that most marriages fall apart because two people just fall out of love. This is an exaggeration. In reality, a large number of divorces happen for life-saving reasons:

    • chronic emotional or mental abuse
    • physical or sexual abuse
    • addictions
    • sexual immorality or infidelity
    • betrayal
    • criminal activity
    • incest
    • financial abuse
    • spiritual abuse
    • neglect or abandonment

Though some people divorce due to falling out of love, growing apart, or having different values, many others give very serious reasons for divorce. In fact, nearly half of divorces are for very serious reasons: a pattern of infidelity, sexual immorality, domestic violence, emotional abuse, or drug/alcohol abuse. Here are four studies that show this. 


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