Am I Being Abused? Am I in Danger?
Free Questionnaires and Assessments
Are you wondering whether you’re being abused—or whether this is a typical marriage with normal highs and lows? Do you live with fear, confusion, secrecy, control, or pressure when you’re exhausted or ill? Do you feel like you’re walking on eggshells? Do you ever wonder whether your spouse cares if you live or die?
Do you try to be “perfect” and still get criticized?
Perhaps you are in a destructive marriage. Here are several self-tests to help you sort it out.
Free Abuse and Danger Self-Tests, Assessments, and Questionnaires
- Relationship questionnaire (Christian): Are You In An Emotionally Destructive Relationship? (Leslie Vernick, LCSW)
- MOSAIC Threat Assessment: Choose domestic violence, workplace violence, or student threat
- Abuse assessment (Christian): Hurt by Love — Abuse Assessment
- Danger Assessment for homicide risk (Jacquelyn C. Campbell, PhD, RN; Johns Hopkins): Take the test (PDF) — How to score it (see page 3)
- Self-assessment (Christian educator): Natalie Hoffman — Is It Me?
- Survey from the U.S. Office on Women’s Health (HHS): Signs of abuse
- Face-to-face screening questions (archived Stanford page; mainly physical abuse): Stanford standardized intake admission & abuse screening (archived)
Questions to Ask Others to Find Out if They Are Experiencing Abuse
Stress and safety
- What stresses do you experience in your relationships?
- Do you feel safe in your relationship?
Afraid or abused
- People in relationships sometimes fight. What happens when you and your partner disagree?
- Have there been situations in your relationship where you have felt afraid?
- Have you been physically hurt or threatened by your partner?
- Has your partner forced you to engage in sexual activities that you didn’t want?
Friends and family
- Are your friends and family aware of what is going on?
Emergency
- Do you have a safe place to go in an emergency?
How to Legally Document Your Story: Injuries, Fears, and Threats
Document the Abuse — Evidentiary Will and Abuse Affidavit (EAA)
“The purpose of this is to document your experiences, in your own words, and make a record of the abuse… Leaving an abuser is a serious issue, and it requires careful planning…”
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