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Critique: Hope Restored Marriage Intensives Are Not the "Miracle" Abused Wives Seek If you are new, read this first: This is Part 1 of a series on Hope Restored Marriage Intensives. Click here for Part 2 on children. Click here for my survey on 5 major marriage...
There's meme going around in social media that appears to be a verse from the Bible, but it is not. It is a note in a study Bible placed just above a Bible verse. (And it's got an interesting history.) It contains this quote: "The Devil will exaggerate your mate's...
Bible Verses That Support Leaving Destructive People Have Nothing to Do with Them: Abuse and Boundaries in Scripture We were taught to love, love, love. And forgive, forgive, forgive. But many Christians were never shown the other side of Scripture—the many passages...
Abuse, Abandonment, and Adultery Are Biblical Grounds for Divorce MYTH: God Forbids All Divorce Except for Adultery TRUTH: Scripture permits divorce in more than one situation. Yes. The Bible condones divorce for more than one reason. The clearest biblical grounds...
Marriage Is a Conditional Covenant (Not an Unbreakable Promise) Biblically, marriage is a conditional covenant—not an unconditional one. Marriage includes mutual vows, and persistent covenant-breaking through adultery, abuse, abandonment, or severe neglect violates...
When a God-Ordained Marriage Becomes Unsafe I thought it was God’s will for us to marry. I prayed earnestly. I asked for God’s guidance. I sought counsel from trusted Christians and believed I was following the Lord’s leading. Like many believers, I entered marriage...
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Gretchen Baskerville was interviewed for this article published by The Christian Post. It discusses the secret online groups that provide encouragement and understanding for women and men of faith who need a life-saving divorce. Tens of thousands of committed...
THIS WAS THE #1 DOWNLOADED EPISODE OF 2022 FOR THE UNTANGLE FAITH PODCAST: Host Amy Fritz and I talk about Bible verses about divorce (including 2 in the Old Testament that command divorce). We talk about Weekend to Remember, Christian authors, and Focus on the Family...
NEW PODCAST: Leslie Vernick interviewed me, Gretchen Baskerville, on the "Relationship Truth" podcast. Leslie Vernick - Enriching Relationships That Matter Most Vernick says, "Gretchen Baskerville was the ultimate good Christian girl. She followed all the "rules" so...
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly in His Needs, Her Needs Willard F. Harley Jr.’s His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage is one of those Christian-adjacent marriage books that contains genuinely useful counsel wrapped inside a framework that can become...
Divorce Is Not the Mass-Shooter Warning Sign People Think It Is In The Violence Project data, childhood trauma / abuse appears more often than parental divorce — 33–68% compared with 22%. When tragedies happen, people often search for one simple explanation. In...
Seven of the Most Troubling Teachings in Lies Women Believe, by Nancy Leigh DeMoss Wolgemuth The book Lies Women Believe is not dangerous because of one isolated sentence. It is dangerous because of the pattern. Again and again, women’s instincts for safety, autonomy,...
Is Your Spouse Pushing for a Fast Divorce? 12 Hidden Motives in a Controlling Marriage Question from a reader: “Why would an abusive spouse want to speed up the divorce?” For some people a fast divorce can sound like a relief. When you have been living with...
Listening for Self‑Confrontation Keywords in Sermons and Teachings This article is part of a critique of Biblical Counseling Foundation’s Self‑Confrontation manual. Though presented as a Christian discipleship tool, it trains readers to scrutinize every emotion and to...
Is Your Spouse Lying? What Behavior Actually Gives Away a Lie Part 3: The Clues We Miss — and Why We Miss Them Based on The Lies We Tell and the Clues We Miss by Bella DePaulo Is Your Spouse Lying? 4-Part Series Why Lies Are Hard to See Why Abuse Is Hard to Recognize...
Is Your Spouse Lying? Why Counseling Often Fails Part 4: What the Science of Deception Tells Us About Getting Help and Getting Healing Based on The Lies We Tell and the Clues We Miss by Dr. Bella DePaulo Is Your Spouse Lying? 4-Part Series Why Lies Are Hard to See Why...
Is Your Spouse Lying? Why Lies Are So Hard to See Part 2: Why It's So Hard to Finally Realize Your Marriage Is Abusive or Deceptive Based on The Lies We Tell and the Clues We Miss by Bella DePaulo People ask: "How could you not have known?" It's a question laced with...
Is Your Spouse Lying? Pay Attention, Because Chronic Lying Is Not a Normal in Marriage Part 1: Research shows that good spouses lie very little — so what are the lies protecting? A woman discovers evidence that something is wrong in her marriage. Her husband explains...