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Critique: Hope Restored Marriage Intensives Are Not the "Miracle" Abused Wives Seek If you are new, read this first: This is Part 1 of a series on Hope Restored Marriage Intensives. Click here for Part 2 on children. Click here for my survey on 5 major marriage...
There's meme going around in social media that appears to be a verse from the Bible, but it is not. It is a note in a study Bible placed just above a Bible verse. (And it's got an interesting history.) It contains this quote: "The Devil will exaggerate your mate's...
Bible Verses That Support Leaving Destructive People Have Nothing to Do with Them: Abuse and Boundaries in Scripture We were taught to love, love, love. And forgive, forgive, forgive. But many Christians were never shown the other side of Scripture—the many passages...
Abuse, Abandonment, and Adultery Are Biblical Grounds for Divorce MYTH: God Forbids All Divorce Except for Adultery TRUTH: Scripture permits divorce in more than one situation. Yes. The Bible condones divorce for more than one reason. The clearest biblical grounds...
Marriage Is a Conditional Covenant (Not an Unbreakable Promise) Biblically, marriage is a conditional covenant—not an unconditional one. Marriage includes mutual vows, and persistent covenant-breaking through adultery, abuse, abandonment, or severe neglect violates...
When a God-Ordained Marriage Becomes Unsafe I thought it was God’s will for us to marry. I prayed earnestly. I asked for God’s guidance. I sought counsel from trusted Christians and believed I was following the Lord’s leading. Like many believers, I entered marriage...
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Gretchen Baskerville was interviewed for this article published by The Christian Post. It discusses the secret online groups that provide encouragement and understanding for women and men of faith who need a life-saving divorce. Tens of thousands of committed...
THIS WAS THE #1 DOWNLOADED EPISODE OF 2022 FOR THE UNTANGLE FAITH PODCAST: Host Amy Fritz and I talk about Bible verses about divorce (including 2 in the Old Testament that command divorce). We talk about Weekend to Remember, Christian authors, and Focus on the Family...
NEW PODCAST: Leslie Vernick interviewed me, Gretchen Baskerville, on the "Relationship Truth" podcast. Leslie Vernick - Enriching Relationships That Matter Most Vernick says, "Gretchen Baskerville was the ultimate good Christian girl. She followed all the "rules" so...
Is This Abuse? 130 Overt and Covert Warning Signs Not all abuse is physical. Not all abuse is loud. Some abuse slowly wears you down until you barely recognize yourself. This list compares obvious abuse with more disguised abuse. If you are struggling to determine...
Emotional Abuse IS Physical Abuse More precisely: emotional abuse can become physical abuse in the body. The body processes emotional abuse much like it does physical abuse, according to the book, THE BODY KEEPS THE SCORE. It has long been known that trauma does not...
87 Ways "The Body Keeps the Score" After Trauma Trauma is not only remembered in the mind; it is carried in the body. In the work of two of the best-known trauma physicians, Judith Lewis Herman, M.D., and Bessel van der Kolk, M.D., trauma appears not merely as an...
Hosea Is Prophetic Symbolism, Not a Marriage Manual When I post about some divorces being biblical, I get comments such as this one: “Read the Book of Hosea,” as if Hosea’s bizarre story in the Bible settles the divorce debate. But Hosea and Gomer's marriage is not a...
Divorce Is Good Sometimes Most of us wish divorce were never necessary. I certainly do. Marriage was meant to be loving, undefiled, protective, and lifelong. But sometimes a covenant that was meant for protection becomes a place of bondage. And when that happens,...
7 Ways the Epstein Files That Can Teach Us to Protect Ourselves from Predators One of the most disturbing claims I’ve seen is that Epstein studied human nature deliberately—not to understand people in order to love them, serve them, or protect them, but to manipulate...
Open Letter to Russell Moore: Divorce as God’s Protection of Abused and Betrayed Spouses This is an updated version of the email I sent to Russell Moore two weeks ago. Dear Russell Moore, I’ve followed you for many years, and I’m writing as someone who has often...
Do Children Resent the Parent Who Leaves a Destructive Marriage? What Two Community Polls Can—and Cannot—Tell Us We've always been told they do. But these two polls suggest the story is more complicated when there's abuse or betrayal. Many Christians are told that if...
What Wayne Grudem Overstates in Judith Wallerstein Thirty years ago, in 1996, Wayne Grudem did an analysis of Judith Wallerstein’s second book, Second Chances, one of three books she had already published that discussed her longitudinal 25-year study on divorce and...