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Critique: Hope Restored Marriage Intensives Are Not the "Miracle" Abused Wives Seek If you are new, read this first: This is Part 1 of a series on Hope Restored Marriage Intensives. Click here for Part 2 on children. Click here for my survey on 5 major marriage...
There's meme going around in social media that appears to be a verse from the Bible, but it is not. It is a note in a study Bible placed just above a Bible verse. (And it's got an interesting history.) It contains this quote: "The Devil will exaggerate your mate's...
Bible Verses That Support Leaving Destructive People Have Nothing to Do with Them: Abuse and Boundaries in Scripture We were taught to love, love, love. And forgive, forgive, forgive. But many Christians were never shown the other side of Scripture—the many passages...
Abuse, Abandonment, and Adultery Are Biblical Grounds for Divorce MYTH: God Forbids All Divorce Except for Adultery TRUTH: Scripture permits divorce in more than one situation. Yes. The Bible condones divorce for more than one reason. The clearest biblical grounds...
Marriage Is a Conditional Covenant (Not an Unbreakable Promise) Biblically, marriage is a conditional covenant—not an unconditional one. Marriage includes mutual vows, and persistent covenant-breaking through adultery, abuse, abandonment, or severe neglect violates...
When a God-Ordained Marriage Becomes Unsafe I thought it was God’s will for us to marry. I prayed earnestly. I asked for God’s guidance. I sought counsel from trusted Christians and believed I was following the Lord’s leading. Like many believers, I entered marriage...
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Gretchen Baskerville was interviewed for this article published by The Christian Post. It discusses the secret online groups that provide encouragement and understanding for women and men of faith who need a life-saving divorce. Tens of thousands of committed...
THIS WAS THE #1 DOWNLOADED EPISODE OF 2022 FOR THE UNTANGLE FAITH PODCAST: Host Amy Fritz and I talk about Bible verses about divorce (including 2 in the Old Testament that command divorce). We talk about Weekend to Remember, Christian authors, and Focus on the Family...
NEW PODCAST: Leslie Vernick interviewed me, Gretchen Baskerville, on the "Relationship Truth" podcast. Leslie Vernick - Enriching Relationships That Matter Most Vernick says, "Gretchen Baskerville was the ultimate good Christian girl. She followed all the "rules" so...
Wayne Grudem Changed His Mind on Abuse, Divorce, and Remarriage Dr. Wayne Grudem’s acceptance of divorce and remarriage after abuse is revolutionary precisely because he is Wayne Grudem. He is a pillar of conservative evangelical theology, not a liberal theologian....
Review of “Combatting the Lies That Can Destroy Your Marriage,” a Focus on the Family Video Series Based on the book 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage, a Focus on the Family Book People often wonder if they should give away their personal contact information and...
A Remarkable Pattern of Healing Over Time A new 2025 study of middle-aged divorced women offers something many Christians need to hear: the pain of divorce is real, but it is not necessarily permanent. In this longitudinal study, women returned to about their baseline...
Why Some Christian Women Get a Gray Divorce After Decades of Abuse Why would a Christian woman divorce just weeks before her 40th anniversary? That question confuses many people when they hear about a gray divorce. Financial experts worry about retirement. Friends may...
Parent-Adult Child Estrangement: 9 Types What happened to you? Estrangement is the painful breakdown or distancing of a family relationship, and it can happen suddenly or develop over many years for many different reasons. Some adult children pull back justly or...
Romans 7 Does Not Teach “Marriage Ends Only at Death” One argument against divorce that I hear occasionally goes like this: Romans 7 says a wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives, so marriage can only end at death. Therefore divorce is not really possible,...
When Pro-Marriage Organizations Ignore Abuse: How Christian and Traditional Voices Fail Christian Wives and Mothers How Focus on the Family, Institute for Family Studies, Heritage Foundation, Family Research Council, and American Enterprise Institute Messaging...
What Many Christians Were Never Told About the Large 1998 ACE Study Many Christians have never even heard of the Adverse Childhood Experiences study published in 1998, much less the years of research that followed it. This was not some tiny study tucked away in a...
AI Is Not a Safe Place to Process Your Divorce If you are going through divorce, especially an abusive or high-conflict one, I want to say this as plainly as I can: public AI is not your safe place. New laws covering the use of AI have not yet been fully settled....