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Critique: Hope Restored Marriage Intensives Are Not the "Miracle" Abused Wives Seek If you are new, read this first: This is Part 1 of a series on Hope Restored Marriage Intensives. Click here for Part 2 on children. Click here for my survey on 5 major Christian...
There's meme going around in social media that appears to be a verse from the Bible, but it is not. It is a note in a study Bible placed just above a Bible verse. (And it's got an interesting history.) It contains this quote: "The Devil will exaggerate your mate's...
Bible Verses That Support Leaving Destructive People Have Nothing to Do with Them: Abuse and Boundaries in Scripture We were taught to love, love, love. And forgive, forgive, forgive. But many Christians were never shown the other side of Scripture—the many passages...
Abuse, Abandonment, and Adultery Are Biblical Grounds for Divorce MYTH: God Forbids All Divorce Except for Adultery TRUTH: Scripture permits divorce in more than one situation. Yes. The Bible condones divorce for more than one reason. The clearest biblical grounds...
Marriage Is a Conditional Covenant (Not an Unbreakable Promise) Biblically, marriage is a conditional covenant—not an unconditional one. Marriage includes mutual vows, and persistent covenant-breaking through adultery, abuse, abandonment, or severe neglect violates...
When a God-Ordained Marriage Becomes Unsafe I thought it was God’s will for us to marry. I prayed earnestly. I asked for God’s guidance. I sought counsel from trusted Christians and believed I was following the Lord’s leading. Like many believers, I entered marriage...
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Gretchen Baskerville was interviewed for this article published by The Christian Post. It discusses the secret online groups that provide encouragement and understanding for women and men of faith who need a life-saving divorce. Tens of thousands of committed...
THIS WAS THE #1 DOWNLOADED EPISODE OF 2022 FOR THE UNTANGLE FAITH PODCAST: Host Amy Fritz and I talk about Bible verses about divorce (including 2 in the Old Testament that command divorce). We talk about Weekend to Remember, Christian authors, and Focus on the Family...
NEW PODCAST: Leslie Vernick interviewed me, Gretchen Baskerville, on the "Relationship Truth" podcast. Leslie Vernick - Enriching Relationships That Matter Most Vernick says, "Gretchen Baskerville was the ultimate good Christian girl. She followed all the "rules" so...
You Were Sent Here Because You’re Quoting Linda Waite’s First Book. Twenty-Five Years Later, Her Own Research Has Changed the Story. Linda Waite is still pro-marriage. But her later work is far less confident that marriage automatically makes people happier,...
Gary Chapman Once Told a Better Version of His Marriage Story. Why Did He Stop? For decades, Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, has been treated as one of the most trusted Christian marriage teachers in America. His books, broadcasts, and interviews...
3 Ways the Trad Wife Ideal Can Make Women Vulnerable to Abuse I understand why the “trad wife” ideal appeals to many Christians, because it appealed to me for most of my life. My faith was sincere and genuine. I was raised by Christian parents who were married for 65...
I’m Having Second Thoughts About Filing for Divorce Yes. It is completely normal to have second thoughts while moving toward divorce—and to keep having doubts for months after you file. In fact, your doubts may reflect how seriously you take marriage, your children,...
Divorce and Child Custody Depositions: How to Prepare (What to Expect) One of my readers recently asked how to prepare for a child custody deposition. If you've never been through one before, it's completely understandable to feel nervous. Fortunately, a deposition is...
A young married pastor recently wrote to me as if I had not weighed the cost of divorce carefully enough. Here's my message to him: Young man, devout Christians in horrific marriages have weighed the costs and benefits of divorce 100 times more than you have. They...
Best Parenting Plan Workbook for High-Conflict Divorce There are many good parenting plan resources, but they do not all serve the same kind of parent. Some parenting plan books are written for parents who are basically reasonable, even if they disagree. Some are...
Dating Safety Screening Important: This tool is based on the 7 antisocial traits. It is a private dating (or premarital) screening questionnaire for identifying patterns of deception, coercion, aggression, irresponsibility, sexual secrecy, lack of remorse, and safety...
Divorce Wasn’t “Easy.” For Many, It Took Years. When policymakers talk about making divorce harder, they often seem to imagine careless people casually walking away from decent marriages. That is not what I see. I recently surveyed 323 respondents in the Life-Saving...