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Critique: Hope Restored Marriage Intensives Are Not the "Miracle" Abused Wives Seek If you are new, read this first: This is Part 1 of a series on Hope Restored Marriage Intensives. Click here for Part 2 on children. Click here for my survey on 5 major Christian...
There's meme going around in social media that appears to be a verse from the Bible, but it is not. It is a note in a study Bible placed just above a Bible verse. (And it's got an interesting history.) It contains this quote: "The Devil will exaggerate your mate's...
Bible Verses That Support Leaving Destructive People Have Nothing to Do with Them: Abuse and Boundaries in Scripture We were taught to love, love, love. And forgive, forgive, forgive. But many Christians were never shown the other side of Scripture—the many passages...
Abuse, Abandonment, and Adultery Are Biblical Grounds for Divorce MYTH: God Forbids All Divorce Except for Adultery TRUTH: Scripture permits divorce in more than one situation. Yes. The Bible condones divorce for more than one reason. The clearest biblical grounds...
Marriage Is a Conditional Covenant (Not an Unbreakable Promise) Biblically, marriage is a conditional covenant—not an unconditional one. Marriage includes mutual vows, and persistent covenant-breaking through adultery, abuse, abandonment, or severe neglect violates...
When a God-Ordained Marriage Becomes Unsafe I thought it was God’s will for us to marry. I prayed earnestly. I asked for God’s guidance. I sought counsel from trusted Christians and believed I was following the Lord’s leading. Like many believers, I entered marriage...
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Gretchen Baskerville was interviewed for this article published by The Christian Post. It discusses the secret online groups that provide encouragement and understanding for women and men of faith who need a life-saving divorce. Tens of thousands of committed...
THIS WAS THE #1 DOWNLOADED EPISODE OF 2022 FOR THE UNTANGLE FAITH PODCAST: Host Amy Fritz and I talk about Bible verses about divorce (including 2 in the Old Testament that command divorce). We talk about Weekend to Remember, Christian authors, and Focus on the Family...
NEW PODCAST: Leslie Vernick interviewed me, Gretchen Baskerville, on the "Relationship Truth" podcast. Leslie Vernick - Enriching Relationships That Matter Most Vernick says, "Gretchen Baskerville was the ultimate good Christian girl. She followed all the "rules" so...
Divorce and Child Custody Depositions: How to Prepare (What to Expect) One of my readers recently asked how to prepare for a child custody deposition. If you've never been through one before, it's completely understandable to feel nervous. Fortunately, a deposition is...
A young married pastor recently wrote to me as if I had not weighed the cost of divorce carefully enough. Here's my message to him: Young man, devout Christians in horrific marriages have weighed the costs and benefits of divorce 100 times more than you have. They...
Best Parenting Plan Workbook for High-Conflict Divorce There are many good parenting plan resources, but they do not all serve the same kind of parent. Some parenting plan books are written for parents who are basically reasonable, even if they disagree. Some are...
Dating Safety Screening Important: This tool is based on the 7 antisocial traits. It is a private dating (or premarital) screening questionnaire for identifying patterns of deception, coercion, aggression, irresponsibility, sexual secrecy, lack of remorse, and safety...
Divorce Wasn’t “Easy.” For Many, It Took Years. When policymakers talk about making divorce harder, they often seem to imagine careless people casually walking away from decent marriages. That is not what I see. I recently surveyed 323 respondents in the Life-Saving...
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly in His Needs, Her Needs Willard F. Harley Jr.’s His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage includes the typical good advice for ordinary, safe marriages: honesty is important, affairs are condemned, fathers should be...
Divorce Is Not the Mass-Shooter Warning Sign People Think It Is In The Violence Project data, childhood trauma / abuse appears more often than parental divorce — 33–68% compared with 22%. When tragedies happen, people often search for one simple explanation. In...
Seven of the Most Troubling Teachings in Lies Women Believe, by Nancy Leigh DeMoss Wolgemuth The book Lies Women Believe is not dangerous because of one isolated sentence. It is dangerous because of the pattern. Again and again, women’s instincts for safety, autonomy,...
Is Your Spouse Pushing for a Fast Divorce? 12 Hidden Motives in a Controlling Marriage Question from a reader: “Why would an abusive spouse want to speed up the divorce?” For some people a fast divorce can sound like a relief. When you have been living with...