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Critique: Hope Restored Marriage Intensives Are Not the "Miracle" Abused Wives Seek If you are new, read this first: This is Part 1 of a series on Hope Restored Marriage Intensives. Click here for Part 2 on children. Click here for my survey on 5 major marriage...
There's meme going around in social media that appears to be a verse from the Bible, but it is not. It is a note in a study Bible placed just above a Bible verse. (And it's got an interesting history.) It contains this quote: "The Devil will exaggerate your mate's...
We were taught to love, love, love. And forgive, forgive, forgive. But no-one ever showed us all the Bible verses telling us to get away from, have nothing to do with, and refuse to even eat with abusive, unfaithful, swindling, jealous, money-obsessed, boastful,...
MYTH: God forbids all divorce, or all divorce is sin unless it's for adultery. TRUTH: Scripture shows that God gives permission for divorce in many situations, including sexual immorality, abuse, and abandonment or neglect. (See verses below.) And several modern...
Loading the Elevenlabs Text to Speech AudioNative Player... Is Marriage an Unconditional Covenant, Since God Never Breaks His Promises? About Me: My name is Gretchen Baskerville and I'm the author of "The Life-Saving Divorce": Hope for People Leaving Destructive...
I thought it was God's will for us to marry. I prayed and asked for the Lord's leading. Did God make a mistake? Did I make a mistake? Did I misunderstand God? Was I just lying to myself? Did some sin from my past cause God to give me a bad spouse? That's what many...
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Gretchen Baskerville was interviewed for this article published by The Christian Post. It discusses the secret online groups that provide encouragement and understanding for women and men of faith who need a life-saving divorce. Tens of thousands of committed...
THIS WAS THE #1 DOWNLOADED EPISODE OF 2022 FOR THE UNTANGLE FAITH PODCAST: Host Amy Fritz and I talk about Bible verses about divorce (including 2 in the Old Testament that command divorce). We talk about Weekend to Remember, Christian authors, and Focus on the Family...
NEW PODCAST: Leslie Vernick interviewed me, Gretchen Baskerville, on the "Relationship Truth" podcast. Leslie Vernick - Enriching Relationships That Matter Most Vernick says, "Gretchen Baskerville was the ultimate good Christian girl. She followed all the "rules" so...
You Are Not Sinning by Refusing to Care for Someone Who Harmed You Why the Bible Does Not Require Survivors to Become Caretakers After writing about why an abused or betrayed spouse is not legally or morally required to provide caretaking for their abuser, many of you...
What Focus on the Family’s 2025 Marriage Report Gets Wrong About Divorce, Faith, and Abuse An abuse-informed review of the State of the Family: Marriage Health in America report Prefer to listen? Audio narration below Focus on the Family’s newly released Marriage...
Here's an imaginary letter from a wife, which represents a common question in my Life-Saving Divorce private online group. Dear Gretchen, I’ve been married for more than forty years to a man who is widely respected in Christian circles for his writing and teaching....
Why You Feel Unheard After a Life-Saving Divorce If you needed a life-saving divorce, but conversations about abuse or divorce always leave you feeling unheard and attacked—or even questioning yourself—this may be why. 💔 There’s a well-documented pattern called DARVO,...
Safety-First vs. Marriage-First Counseling How to screen counselors—and protect yourself—when your marriage may be unsafe Most people who reach out for marriage counseling aren’t trying to “give up.” They want to save their marriage and turn it around. They’re trying...
Critics Push Back: Answering 7 Objections to How Gary Chapman Talks About His Wife, Karolyn Dec 13, 2025 — When I published my recent article examining how marriage educator Dr. Gary Chapman—one of evangelicalism’s most influential marriage speakers—speaks about his...
The Surprising Way Dr. Gary Chapman Talks About His Wife, Karolyn — And Why It Matters For decades, Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, has been held up as the model of “biblical marriage.” Focus on the Family, FamilyLife, and countless churches...
Dr. Gary Chapman’s Double-Speak Blame Decoder Dr. Gary Chapman is an evangelical pastor and bestselling author. A longtime speaker for Focus on the Family, he presents himself as a marriage expert despite having no counseling license. His teachings heavily shape...
The Hidden Danger of Presumed 50/50 Child Custody: What People Don’t See Why Presumed 50/50 Custody Can Endanger Children Presumed 50/50 custody—sometimes called default equal parenting time or mandatory joint physical custody—refers to laws or court practices that...