Divorce Wasn’t “Easy.” For Many, It Took Years. When policymakers talk about making divorce harder, they often seem to imagine careless people casually walking away from decent...
Abuse and Divorce
His Needs, Her Needs Review: Helpful Advice, Dangerous Framework
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly in His Needs, Her Needs Willard F. Harley Jr.’s His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage is one of those Christian-adjacent...
7 Dangerous Teachings in Lies Women Believe That Can Harm Abused Wives
Seven of the Most Troubling Teachings in Lies Women Believe, by Nancy Leigh DeMoss Wolgemuth The book Lies Women Believe is not dangerous because of one isolated sentence. It is...
Is Your Spouse Pushing for a Fast Divorce? 12 Hidden Motives in a Controlling Marriage
Is Your Spouse Pushing for a Fast Divorce? 12 Hidden Motives in a Controlling Marriage Question from a reader: “Why would an abusive spouse want to speed up the divorce?” For...
Listening for Self‑Confrontation Keywords in Sermons and Teachings
Listening for Self‑Confrontation Keywords in Sermons and Teachings This article is part of a critique of Biblical Counseling Foundation’s Self‑Confrontation manual. Though...
Is Your Spouse Lying? What Behavior Actually Gives Away a Lie
Is Your Spouse Lying? What Behavior Actually Gives Away a Lie Part 3: The Clues We Miss — and Why We Miss Them Based on The Lies We Tell and the Clues We Miss by Bella DePaulo Is...
Is Your Spouse Lying? Why Lies Are So Hard to See
Is Your Spouse Lying? Why Lies Are So Hard to See Part 2: Why It's So Hard to Finally Realize Your Marriage Is Abusive or Deceptive Based on The Lies We Tell and the Clues We...
Is Your Spouse Lying? What Are the Lies Protecting?
Is Your Spouse Lying? Pay Attention, Because Chronic Lying Is Not a Normal in Marriage Part 1: Research shows that good spouses lie very little — so what are the lies protecting?...
7 Shocking Signs Your Pastor Is Helping Your Abuser
7 Shocking Signs Your Pastor Is Helping Your Abuser How to Know You’ve Got a Bad Pastor When You’re in an Abusive Marriage A good pastor does not need to be perfect. He does not...
Self-Confrontation by John C. Broger: The Biblical Counseling Manual That Blames Victims
When “Biblical Counseling” Misreads Abuse: The Troubling Mary and Tom Story in the Self-Confrontation Manual This is Part 2 of a multi-part series on John C. Broger’s...
Will I Be Charged With Kidnapping If I Leave With the Kids? What Parents Need to Know
Will I Be Charged With Kidnapping If I Leave With the Kids? What Parents Need to Know One of the least discussed fears facing protective parents is the fear of being accused of...
Is This Abuse? 130 Overt and Covert Warning Signs
Is This Abuse? 130 Overt and Covert Warning Signs Not all abuse is physical. Not all abuse is loud. Some abuse slowly wears you down until you barely recognize yourself. This...
Emotional Abuse IS Physical Abuse: More Than 80 Examples from Medical Science
Emotional Abuse IS Physical Abuse More precisely: emotional abuse can become physical abuse in the body. The body processes emotional abuse much like it does physical abuse,...
87 Ways “The Body Keeps the Score” After Trauma
87 Ways "The Body Keeps the Score" After Trauma Trauma is not only remembered in the mind; it is carried in the body. In the work of two of the best-known trauma physicians,...
7 Ways the Epstein Files Can Teach Us to Protect Ourselves from Predators
7 Ways the Epstein Files That Can Teach Us to Protect Ourselves from Predators One of the most disturbing claims I’ve seen is that Epstein studied human nature deliberately—not...
Open Letter to Russell Moore: Why Some Divorces Are Acts of Biblical Deliverance
Open Letter to Russell Moore: Divorce as God’s Protection of Abused and Betrayed Spouses This is an updated version of the email I sent to Russell Moore two weeks ago. Dear...
Wayne Grudem Supports Divorce and Remarriage after Abuse, Adultery, Abandonment
Wayne Grudem Changed His Mind on Abuse, Divorce, and Remarriage Dr. Wayne Grudem’s acceptance of divorce and remarriage after abuse is revolutionary precisely because he is Wayne...
Review: “Combatting the Lies That Can Destroy Your Marriage,” a Focus on the Family Video
Review of “Combatting the Lies That Can Destroy Your Marriage,” a Focus on the Family Video Series Based on the book 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage, a Focus on the Family...
Gray Divorce After 40 Years of Abuse: Schari’s Story
Why Some Christian Women Get a Gray Divorce After Decades of Abuse Why would a Christian woman divorce just weeks before her 40th anniversary? That question confuses many people...
The Funniest and Fiercest Responses to the Heritage Foundation’s Push to Make Divorce Harder
The Funniest and Fiercest Responses to the Heritage Foundation’s Push to Make Divorce Harder My Facebook post about the Heritage Foundation’s plan to reward marriage financially...
Heritage Foundation’s Plan to Make Divorce Harder: A Critique
Heritage Foundation’s Plan to Make Divorce Harder: A Critique The Heritage Foundation says America can be “saved” by strengthening marriage and family. In practice, some of its...