A Remarkable Pattern of Healing Over Time A new 2025 study of middle-aged divorced women offers something many Christians need to hear: the pain of divorce is real, but it is not...
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The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: What Counselors, Students, and Divorcing Parents Need to Know
Judith Wallerstein on Divorce and Children: What Pastors, Counselors, and Divorcing Parents Need to Know A critical review of Judith Wallerstein’s five major books on divorce,...
12 Half-Truths in Focus on the Family’s “How Could Divorce Affect My Kids?”
12 Half-Truths in Focus on the Family’s “How Could Divorce Affect My Kids?” Focus on the Family should be ashamed of this article. Why? Because it tells frightened parents that...
75% of Divorced People Are Happy (GSS 2024)—So Why Does the Church Say the Opposite?
Here’s Why That Misery Message Persists—Even When the Data Says Otherwise I often hear church leaders and Christian organizations repeat a familiar warning: Divorced people are...
When Divorce Is Called “Violence” but Abuse Is Not: What Sermons Reveal
When Divorce Is Called “Violence” but Abuse Is Not Dr. Valerie Hobbs, a linguist and senior lecturer at the University of Sheffield in the U.K., has spent years studying how...
Pastors and Christian Divorcees: What LifeWay’s Surveys Reveal About the Church Divorce Gap
Pastors and Christian Divorcees: What the LifeWay Surveys Reveal About the Church Divorce Gap In 2015, Focus on the Family sponsored LifeWay Research to conduct multiple surveys...
Pastors: Think Twice Before Using Focus on the Family’s Marriage Ministry Materials
Pastors: Think Twice Before Using Focus on the Family’s Marriage Ministry Materials I am pro-marriage. I have spent years defending covenant faithfulness, calling out serial...
What the LifeWay Divorce Study Reveals — And Why Focus on the Family Isn’t Talking About It
The LifeWay Divorce Study: What the Data Reveals — And What Focus on the Family Hasn’t Addressed In 2015, LifeWay Research conducted a national survey of 1,000 churchgoers who...
Who’s Speaking in the #GreaterThan Campaign Video—and Why Context Matters
Who Is Speaking—and Why This Context Matters The #GreaterThan campaign is a coordinated media and messaging effort launched in January 2026 in response to Obergefell v. Hodges....
#GreaterThan Campaign Video: Full Transcript with Speakers Identified
#GreaterThan Campaign Video Full Transcript with Speakers Identified and Timestamps This transcript is provided for documentation and reference only. Its inclusion here does not...
I Wish I’d Left Sooner: What Parents Learned About Divorce and Kids
“I Wish I’d Left Sooner”: What Parents Say About Timing Their Divorce When Kids Are Involved One of the hardest questions parents in destructive marriages ask is: “Should I wait...
New Study Shows Kids of Divorce Rarely Face Teen Pregnancy, Jail, or Early Death
New Study Shows Kids of Divorce are Unlikely to Have Teen Pregnancy, Incarceration or Early Mortality EDITED 8-14-2025 If you have the older yellow graph, please use this blue...
There Is No Divorce Crisis — There Is a Marriage-Endangering Sin Crisis
If you're new to my blog, read this first. I'm a committed Christian who started leading Christian divorce recovery groups in Evangelical churches in 1998. I write about...
Is Jordan Peterson Right About Women and Divorce? The Data Tells a Bigger Story (Updated 2026)
Is Jordan Peterson Right about Women and Divorce in This Video? UPDATED 2/28/2026 - This post has been updated with the latest happiness figures for married people according to...
10 Grounds for Divorce Recognized by the Puritans (1639–1692)
This table shows every known divorce among the Massachusetts Puritans from 1639 to 1692. Forty divorces are recorded, with columns listing the archival source, date, names of the...
Is It Best to Stay for the Kids? What 50 Years of Divorce Research Actually Shows
Is It Best to “Stay for the Kids”? What Decades of Research Actually Show 🔍 2026 Research Update: What Helps Kids Most After Divorce Decades of research—including work from...
Free Abuse & Danger Assessments (Christian-Friendly)
Am I Being Abused? Am I in Danger? Free Questionnaires and Assessments Are you wondering whether you’re being abused—or whether this is a typical marriage with normal highs and...
Will Your Church Support Divorce for Abuse? 48 Christian Denominations Compared
About Me: If you're new to my blog, read this first. I'm a committed Evangelical Christian. I began leading Christian divorce recovery groups in conservative churches in 1998....
Do Evangelicals Shoot Their Own Wounded Divorcees?
Do Evangelicals Shoot Their Own Wounded Divorcees? I’ll never forget sitting in church listening to my beloved pastor preach on marriage. I’d been in church since birth, and in...
What is a Life-Saving Divorce?
What Is a Life-Saving Divorce? Not a Frivolous Exit — It Is A Divorce for Serious Harm The Opposite of “I’m Bored” or “The Grass Is Greener” A life-saving divorce is a divorce...