Gary Chapman Once Told a Better Version of His Marriage Story. Why Did He Stop? For decades, Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, has been treated as one of the...
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Dating Character & Safety Screening Tool
Dating Safety Screening Important: This tool is based on the 7 antisocial traits. It is a private dating (or premarital) screening questionnaire for identifying patterns of...
Listening for Self‑Confrontation Keywords in Sermons and Teachings
Listening for Self‑Confrontation Keywords in Sermons and Teachings This article is part of a critique of Biblical Counseling Foundation’s Self‑Confrontation manual. Though...
7 Shocking Signs Your Pastor Is Helping Your Abuser
7 Shocking Signs Your Pastor Is Helping Your Abuser How to Know You’ve Got a Bad Pastor When You’re in an Abusive Marriage A good pastor does not need to be perfect. He does not...
Spiritual Self-Surveillance: The Hidden Psychology of Self-Confrontation
Spiritual Self-Surveillance: The Hidden Psychology of Self-Confrontation This is Part 3 of a three-part critique on John C. Broger’s Self-Confrontation manual. Part 1 examined...
Self-Confrontation by John C. Broger: The Biblical Counseling Manual That Blames Victims
When “Biblical Counseling” Misreads Abuse: The Troubling Mary and Tom Story in the Self-Confrontation Manual This is Part 2 of a multi-part series on John C. Broger’s...
Self-Confrontation: When Biblical Counseling Becomes Behavioral Control
Self-Confrontation: When Biblical Counseling Becomes Behavioral Control This is Part 1 of a four-part critique on John C. Broger’s Self-Confrontation manual. This article...
Is This Abuse? 130 Overt and Covert Warning Signs
Is This Abuse? 130 Overt and Covert Warning Signs Not all abuse is physical. Not all abuse is loud. Some abuse slowly wears you down until you barely recognize yourself. This...
7 Ways the Epstein Files Can Teach Us to Protect Ourselves from Predators
7 Ways the Epstein Files That Can Teach Us to Protect Ourselves from Predators One of the most disturbing claims I’ve seen is that Epstein studied human nature deliberately—not...
The Marriage Looked Fine from the Outside—So Why Was It Killing Me?
When a Marriage Looks Fine but Is Quietly Destroying You Sometimes the marriage that looks “fine” from the outside is slowly crushing the person living inside it. Not because...
Tim Challies Tells Christians to Stay in Bad Marriages. That Is Dangerous
Tim Challies Tells Christians to Stay in Bad Marriages. That Is Dangerous Counsel. Summary: A critique of the January 2026 article To Those Who Married Poorly, including a...
What Resources Does Focus on the Family Give to Abuse Victims on Social Media?
Thousands of Pleas for Help Every week, thousands of people reach out to Focus on the Family, many “experiencing painful and often destructive situations… even incidents of...
Abuse Isn’t “Subjective”: How Control Patterns Are Measurable (Even in Christian Counseling)
The Pushback: “Abuse is 'subjective': Maybe She's Overreacting." When it comes to physical and emotional abuse in Christian contexts, one of the most common pushbacks I see on...
How to Tell if an Abusive or Deceptive Partner Has Really Changed
Checklist: How to Tell if an Abusive or Deceptive Partner Has Really Changed Note: Don't give this list to the abuser or cheater. See why at the end. People often assume that an...
Church Betrayal After Abuse: Christian Divorce When the Church Sides with Your Abuser
Christian Divorce After Abuse: When the Church Sides with Your Abuser Church Betrayal After Abuse: The Second Trauma No One Warned You About There’s a saying many survivors...
27 Ways Churches Gaslight Abuse and Betrayal Victims (And the Biblical Truth)
27 Ways Churches Gaslight Marital Abuse and Betrayal Victims Faith should be a refuge. But when someone is being abused or betrayed, church culture can accidentally (or...
When “Leave and Cleave” Becomes Spiritual Abuse
When “Leave and Cleave” Becomes Spiritual Isolation Genesis 2:24 says a man shall “leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife.” Beautiful. Sacred. Good. But in some...
Terrible Forgiveness Articles That Blame Victims and Excuse Predators
Terrible Forgiveness Articles That Blame Victims and Excuse Predators Some Christian forgiveness articles sound compassionate at first. They talk about grace, freedom,...
Why James Dobson’s Article Is So Useful to Predators
Why James Dobson’s Article Is So Useful to Predators Many people wonder why Jeffrey Epstein would recommend a James Dobson article to one of his victims. For audio summary in...
Epstein, Dobson, and the Theology That Protects Abusers
🚨 Why Epstein Found James Dobson Useful — and Why Focus on the Family Still Does The Epstein files contained a detail that should stop Christians cold. For audio narration in...
How Do I Know If My Abusive Spouse Has Really Changed? 3 Signs That Matter
How Do I Know If My Spouse Has Really Changed? Summary: This article gives 3 ways you can know if your abusive or addicted spouse has really changed and 3 signs that they have...