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Are you going through a life-saving divorce? 

I’d like to invite you to my private Facebook group, “Life-Saving Divorce for Separated or Divorced Christians.” Just click the link and ANSWER the 3 QUESTIONS. This is a group for women and men of faith who have walked this path, or are considering it. Supporters and people helpers are also welcome.  I’ve written a book about spiritual abuse and divorce for Christians. Also, sign up for my email list below.

 

50 MOST POPULAR BLOG POSTS

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• What is a Life-Saving Divorce? How Do We Know Half of Divorces are “Life-Saving”? (or watch the video)
• Life-Saving Divorce: Introduction What Is this Book About? (audio and transcript)
• About Me: Why Is a Nice Christian Girl Like Me Promoting Divorce?
• How Can I Get the Book, The Life-Saving Divorce? (Amazon affiliate link.)

Physical and Emotional Abuse & Infidelity

• 130 Examples of Abuse: Emotional, Physical, Financial, Spiritual and Gaslighting
• Abuse is Biblical Grounds for Divorce
• “But He Never Hit Me”: Divorce for Neglect, Emotional, and Financial Abuseå
• Pastors Who Accept Physical and Emotional Abuse as Grounds for Divorce
• Severe Emotional Neglect: Toni’s Story of Finding Freedom (video)
• 40 Years of Murderous Rages and How I Got Free! Karen’s story (video)
• How Churches Should Handle Abuse Victims (video with Pastor Neil Schori)
• Help! I’m Married to a Cheater: Should I Stay or Go?
• Married to a Pedophile: How I Got Out – Pam’s Story (video)
• Help! I Am Alone with the Abuser

God Allows Divorce to Protect Victims

• Jesus’ Greatest Divorce Sermon – Luke 13 (or watch the Video)
• Pastors Who Accept Physical and Emotional Abuse as Grounds for Divorce
• Myth: The Person Who Files for Divorce Caused the Divorce
• Haven’t Our English Bibles Always Said, “God hates divorce”? No.
• Jesus Said, “Love My Enemy”—Can I Still Divorce Them?
• But I Thought it Was God’s Will for Me to Marry this Person!
• Is Pointing Out Marriage-Endangering Sin Being Judgmental? (video)
• One Woman’s Story: Adultery, Prayer and the Bible
• Is Marriage an Unconditional Covenant or a Conditional One? (Video)
• Does Divorce Shatter the Image of Christ and the Church as John Piper Suggests?
• Divorce and the Good Samaritan Story
• Myth: Divorce is the Unpardonable Sin and “God Hates Divorce”
• Myth: Your Divorce Will Shatter the Image of Christ and the Church
• Myth: You Must Forgive and Forget Over and Over, Forever

 

Does God Hate Divorce? No, Most English Bible Translations Don’t Say That

• Malachi 2:16 Haven’t Our English Bibles Always Said, “God hates divorce”? No.
• Myth: Divorce is the Unpardonable Sin and “God Hates Divorce”
• List of Every Known Puritan Divorce in Massachusetts between 1639 and 1692.

How to Find a Good Supportive Church

• Pastors Who Accept Physical and Emotional Abuse as Grounds for Divorce
• 7 Ways to Know if a Church is Safe for Abused Wives (or Abused Husbands)
• Do My Pastors Have a Say about Me Getting a Divorce?
• Good vs. Bad Pastoral Counselors on the Topic of Marital Abuse: 40 People Tell their Stories

 

What If My Pastor Says It Would Be Wrong to Get Divorced for Abuse?

• 5 Bible Verses that Say You Should Separate from an Abuser
• 1 Million God-honoring Divorcees Cannot Find a Good Church
• Church Denominations and Divorce Policies Comparison Chart
• Excommunication for Getting Divorced? What to Do!
• Evangelicals Shooting their Own Wounded Divorcees (video) or blog/transcript
• How to Handle Criticism When You Divorce (video-3 parts) Natalie Hoffman, Gina Kaye
• Myth: You Don’t Take God-Ordained Marriage Seriously
• Sermon Ideas for Domestic Violence Awareness Month – October
• Churches That Block Abused Wives (and Husbands) From Divorcing
• Southern Baptists make Evangelicalism Unsafe for Abused Wives & Husbands
• How Churches Should Handle Abuse Victims (video with Pastor Neil Schori)

 

Divorce Saves Lives: The Surprising (Wonderful!) Truth About Divorce Nobody Told You

• Your Kids Will Likely Be Fine After Divorce (Nearly 8 in 10 Are!)
• 10 Facts Evangelical Pastors MUST Know about Kids and Divorce [VIDEO]
• There Is No Divorce Crisis. We have a Sin Crisis.
• Myth: 95% of Divorces are for Falling Out of Love

Will I Ever Find Love Again? Dating After Divorce: Good News

• Will I Ever Find Love Again?
• Dating after Divorce: An interview with Gina Kaye
• I Fear I’ll Never Find a Healthy Relationship
• Remarriage after Divorce: How Can I Claim to be the Innocent Spouse? I Had My Faults Too!

Finding Happiness and Health After Divorce

• Will the Kids and I Ever Be Happy Again?
• Happiness Either Way: Remarriage or Staying Single
• Divorce May Improve Your Health: Depression, Suicidal Thoughts and Medical Issues
• How My Health Improved Dramatically After Divorce: Karen’s Story (video)
• “I’m Off of All My Depression Medications Now That I’ve Divorced” Schari’s story (video)
• PTSD, EMDR and My Major Health Improvements after Divorce Toni’s story (video)

 

Thriving After Divorce: These Christians Tell their Stories

• Christians Finding Peace after Divorce: Shirley Fessel, Author (Audio) or (Video)
• 10 Turning Points: Stories of How Others Decided to Stay or to Go
• Married to a Pedophile: How My Kids and I Got Free! (video)
• Finding Joy after a 40-Year Abusive Marriage (video)
• Can I Divorce My Mentally Ill, Destructive Spouse? Yes! Amanda’s Story (video)
• From Bondage to Glorifying God! 5 Survivor Stories (after 20-, 30-, 40-year long abusive marriages)

Self-Doubt, Second-Guessing Ourselves, and Gaslighting

• Am I the One Destroying the Relationship?
• How Can I Call Myself the Innocent Spouse? I Wasn’t Perfect Either (video)
• Is Pointing Out Marriage-Endangering Sin Being Judgmental? (video)
• Myth: He Wouldn’t Cheat or Watch Porn if You Gave Him More Sex
• Myth: You’re Lying: We’d All Know If Your Spouse Was That Bad
• Myth: It Takes “Two to Tango” and “All Marriage Problems are 50/50”
• How to Handle Criticism When You Divorce (video-3 parts) Natalie Hoffman, Gina Kaye

Children and Divorce: Researchers Give Hope

• Is it Best to “Stay for the Kids”? Sometimes, yes. But Not if It’s a Toxic Marriage
• Researchers Know Your Kids Will Likely Be Fine After Life-Saving Divorce
• 5 Studies That Say Your Kids are Likely to Be Okay After Divorce (video)
• Marriage Does Not Guarantee Good Kids: 1 in 10 Kids from Married Two-Parent Homes are Troubled.
• Myth 21: Divorce will Destroy Your Children, So Stay for the Sake of Your Kids

 

High Conflict Divorce and Parenting

• Research shows: Your Kids Will Likely Be Fine After Divorce: In Fact It’s Best to Divorce to Get Away From Abuse
• 12 Ways to Document and Protect Yourself in a High-Conflict Divorce
• 12 Tips for Talking with Angry, Alienated Kids
• Myth: Divorce will Destroy Your Children, So Stay for the Sake of Your Kids

Recommended Reading List and Free Resources for Christians and Other People of Faith

• Best Books/Resources on Abuse, Infidelity, Parental Alienation, and High-Conflict Divorce

 

Common Myths

• Myth: Your Marriage Would Be Great if You Just Submitted More
• Myth: Divorce will Destroy Your Children, So Stay for the Sake of Your Kids
• Myth: Divorce is the Unpardonable Sin and “God Hates Divorce”
• Myth: You Just Didn’t Try Hard Enough
• Myth: You Don’t Take God-Ordained Marriage Seriously
• Myth: Your Divorce Will Shatter the Image of Christ and the Church
• Myth: You Must Forgive and Forget Over and Over, Forever
• Myth: 95% of Divorces are for Falling Out of Love
• 27 Myths about Divorce That Probably Don’t Apply to Committed Christians

 

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• Download “3 Studies that Show Kids Are Most Likely to Turn Out Fine After Divorce” (Sign up at bottom of page)

 

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GET THE BOOK! The Life-Saving Divorce is about divorces for very serious reasons: a pattern of sexual immorality, physical abuse, chronic emotional abuse, life-altering addictions, abandonment, or severe neglect. This book will give you hope for your future, and optimism about your children. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.