Focus on the Family’s “5 Traditional Marriage Vows”: Are These Even Biblical — and How Are They Misused? Recent Focus on the Family social media and article present five phrases...
Christians and Divorce
The #GreaterThan Campaign’s Divorce Pivot Misses the Hardest Truth
Divorce Hurts Kids—But Abuse Hurts Them More (A Response to the #GreaterThan Campaign’s Divorce Pivot.) This post responds to the campaign’s claim that “divorce hurts kids” by...
Christian Divorce Testimonies: Does God Bring Couples Back Together?
Christian Divorce Testimonies: Does God Bring Couples Back Together? A Question Survivors Ask With Trembling Hope One of the most common questions I hear is: “Are there any...
Epstein, Dobson, and the Theology That Protects Abusers
🚨 Why Epstein Found James Dobson Useful — and Why Focus on the Family Still Does The Epstein files contained a detail that should stop Christians cold. For audio narration in...
Who’s Speaking in the #GreaterThan Campaign Video—and Why Context Matters
Who Is Speaking—and Why This Context Matters The #GreaterThan campaign is a coordinated media and messaging effort launched in January 2026 in response to Obergefell v. Hodges....
#GreaterThan Campaign Video: Full Transcript with Speakers Identified
#GreaterThan Campaign Video Full Transcript with Speakers Identified and Timestamps This transcript is provided for documentation and reference only. Its inclusion here does not...
When Divorce Is Personal: What Greg Smalley’s Story Reveals About Church Double Standards
How Churches (and Focus on the Family) Treat Divorcees—And How the Smalleys Treated Their Daughter What Greg Smalley’s Article Reveals About Divorce, Compassion, and Double...
Why Calling Divorce “Contagious” Hurts Christians Who Need Community
When Saying “Divorce Is Contagious” Misses the Real Story A response to Erin Smalley—and the Christians who spoke up against her view In 1998, I met a woman in a Sunday school...
Is Divorce Really “Contagious”? What the Church Keeps Missing
When “Divorce Is Contagious” Misses the Real Story A response to Erin Smalley—and the people who protested her interpretation in the comments Erin Smalley’s Focus on the Family...
Why Presumed 50/50 Custody Fails Children: The Truth Behind Kentucky’s Law
Why the NPO’s Claims About Kentucky’s 50/50 Custody Law Don’t Hold Up The National Parents Organization (NPO) claims that Kentucky’s presumed 50/50 custody law proves equal...
You Are Not Sinning by Refusing to Care for Someone Who Harmed You
You Are Not Sinning by Refusing to Care for Someone Who Harmed You Why the Bible Does Not Require Survivors to Become Caretakers After my first post about why an abused or...
Safety-First vs. Marriage-First Counseling
Safety-First vs. Marriage-First Counseling How to screen counselors—and protect yourself—when your marriage may be unsafe Most people who reach out for marriage counseling aren’t...
Is Gary Chapman’s Marriage Advice Safe for Abuse Victims? A Critical Review of Focus on the Family’s Claims and Credentials
Is Gary Chapman’s Marriage Advice Safe for Abuse Victims? A Critical Review of Focus on the Family’s Claims and Credentials Safety, Truth, and Accountability in Christian...
Christian Man Uses Abuse Tactics to Shame Victims on a Domestic-Violence Post
When Churches Protect Marriage More Than People A Facebook Comment That Proved the Point I posted this statement and meme on Facebook—and got an interesting comment (below):...
Dear Focus on the Family, You Cannot Serve God and Money
It appears that Focus on the Family® wishes it could have it both ways—a glowing reputation for defending abuse victims and the steady flow of donations tied to being fiercely...
Weekend to Remember: Honest Stories from Real Attendees
Weekend to Remember: Honest Stories from Real Attendees This is my second collection of positive and negative firsthand, anonymized reviews from Christians who attended Weekend...
Can a Weekend to Remember Marriage Retreat Fix a Bad Marriage?
🕊️ Weekend to Remember Marriage Retreat: Can it Fix a Bad Marriage? FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember (WTR) is one of the most recognizable Christian marriage retreats in the...
I Wish I’d Left Sooner: What Parents Learned About Divorce and Kids
“I Wish I’d Left Sooner”: What Parents Say About Timing Their Divorce When Kids Are Involved One of the hardest questions parents in destructive marriages ask is: “Should I wait...
Hope Restored Marriage Intensive: Real Results From 44 Former Attendees
Hope Restored Marriage Intensive: Real Results From 44 Former Attendees As a Christian divorce recovery leader, I am asked frequently about marriage intensives. So I did a survey...
What are Grounds for Annulment in the Catholic Church?
Catholic Annulment: 21 Recognized Grounds Based on the 1983 Code of Canon Law and official Catholic sources [button...
The Top 10 No-Fault Divorce Myths and How to Refute Them
Experts Respond to 10 Common Critiques of No-Fault Divorce Let's separate the facts from the fear-bombs. This article addresses the common critiques of no-fault divorce, and...