by gbaskerville | Feb 28, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Myths
Forgiveness Is Complex because Abuse, Betrayal, and Neglect Are Complex Let’s say your spouse slaps you on the face. If you were confident it was accidental—perhaps he/she was swatting a fly and missed—that would be easy to handle. But in the case of abuse, it's not...
by gbaskerville | Feb 26, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Focus on the Family, Myths
Who is this post for? For people who are divorced or considering it and want to defend themselves against misleading articles This page is for you if you are in destructive marriage and are thinking about divorce. Yet every time you read Christian articles...
by gbaskerville | Feb 10, 2021 | Abuse examples, Christians and Divorce, Focus on the Family, For Pastors, Myths
Painful sex, marital rape, sexless marriages, and sexual coercion in Christian marriages are serious problems. Why do they exist? What can be done? VIDEO #1 HOW CAN WE HAVE BETTER SEX LIVES IN OUR MARRIAGES? In 2020, marriage author and researcher...
by gbaskerville | Dec 15, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, First-person stories, Myths, Safe Churches & Friends, Why Do We Divorce?
What do you say if a dear Christian friend disagrees with your decision to divorce your destructive spouse? . What if they accuse you of making things up? . What if they are ill-informed about the tactics abusers use? . What if they pressure you, saying "holiness over...
by gbaskerville | Oct 29, 2020 | Divorce and Children, Myths
Am I Being Abused? Am I in Danger? FREE Questionnaires and Assessments Are you wondering if you're being abused or if this is a typical marriage? Do other marriages have a lot of fear and confusion and secrets in them? Are other spouses pressured to do things...
by gbaskerville | Oct 13, 2020 | For Pastors, Gaslighting Examples, Myths
We were taught to love, love, love. And forgive, forgive, forgive. But no-one ever showed us all the Bible verses telling us to get away from, have nothing to do with, and refuse to even eat with abusive, unfaithful, swindling, jealous, money-obsessed, boastful,...
by gbaskerville | Sep 26, 2020 | Divorce and Children, Myths
MYTH: It's Best to Stay for the Kids, Even if the Home is Abusive or Toxic TRUTH: Studies found that offspring raised in toxic homes that ended in divorce had higher wellbeing than offspring whose parents stayed married This myth suggests that kids will be so...
by gbaskerville | Jun 16, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, Gaslighting Examples, High-Conflict Divorces, Kids and Parental Alienation, Myths, What is a Life-Saving Divorce?
10 Highlights from the Life-Saving Divorce Book I'm sure you're busy and you don't have time to read an entire 446-page book. So I've done a 15-minute video of highlights for you. Just the key insights from the book and where to start if you want to read more. VIDEO...
by gbaskerville | Jun 16, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, Divorce Bible Verses, Do I have biblical grounds for divorce?, For Pastors, Myths
Is Marriage an Unconditional Covenant, Since God Never Breaks His Promises? About Me: My name is Gretchen Baskerville and I'm the author of "The Life-Saving Divorce": Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships. And I've been a Christian divorce recovery leader...
by gbaskerville | Apr 27, 2020 | Myths
VIDEO and TRANSCRIPT: Evangelicals Shooting their Own Wounded Divorcees (Closed Captioned) My edits after the video transcript are in [brackets]. Hello, my name is Gretchen Baskerville and for the past 20 years I've been a Christian divorce recovery leader...