What is a Flying Monkey? In a divorce, a "flying monkey" is an ally your ex-spouse has won to their side. Often they start by driving a wedge between you and this person by...
High-Conflict Divorces
How to Defend Yourself against “You Made Your Bed; Now Lie in It”
How to Defend Yourself against “You Made Your Bed; Now Lie in It” 3 Reasons You Didn’t See Warning Signs or Red Flags One of the clearest signs someone is not a safe friend is...
15 Steps to Start the Divorce Process if You Need a Life-Saving Divorce
15 Steps to Starting the Divorce Process, if You Need a Life-Saving Divorce First, make sure you (and the kids) are safe. If your spouse has weapons or has a...
How To Tell the Kids About The Divorce
HOW DO WE TELL THE KIDS ABOUT OUR DIVORCE? Note: This article is for difficult divorces, not for amicable divorces. Why Telling the Kids Together Doesn’t Always Work Many...
12 Ways to Document Financial Issues and Child Support in a Divorce or Separation
How to Document Child Support and Expenses and Protect Yourself in Divorce or Separation Fewer than half of ex-spouses who are required to pay child support actually do pay it...
The Best Children’s Books on Divorce for Kids, Teens, and High-Conflict Families
Best Children’s Books on Divorce When parents or grandparents go looking for a children’s book on divorce, they are not just shopping for a cute story. They are trying to find...
Creating a Victim Impact Statement for a High-Conflict Divorce
How to Document Abuse/Neglect for Your Victim Impact Statement (Part of this is an excerpt from Chapter 7 of the book, The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope For People Leaving...
Does the Waite and Gallagher Study Really Say Your Marriage Will Become Happy If You Stay 5 Years? No!
Pastors, Christian marriage authors, and Christian radio programs like to quote the study by Dr. Linda Waite and journalist Maggie Gallagher, who found, "Two out of three...
Lundy Bancroft Interview: Why Does He Do That?
Lundy Bancroft is one of the best authors and speakers on the topic of abusive men in romantic relationships and how to know if they've changed. In this video, created and...
Escape Plan: 50-Item Checklist
Escape Plan: If You Are Thinking About Leaving (UPDATED Aug 2021) An important note: These are basic lists for people who are in difficult relationships but not in physical...
130 Examples of Abuse: Physical, Emotional, Sexual, Spiritual, Financial and Neglect
130 Examples of Abuse: Physical, Emotional, Sexual, Spiritual, Financial and Neglect Overt and covert abuse can be physical, emotional, sexual, financial, spiritual, or...
How a Focus on the Family Divorce-and-Kids Article Nearly Killed Me
How Focus on the Family Misled Me to Believe Divorce Was Worse for Children Than Abuse Summary: Patricia tells her story of being in an abusive marriage, and how a Focus on the...
12 Ways to Document and Protect Yourself & Kids in a Divorce
How to Document and Protect Yourself & Kids in a Divorce (This is an excerpt from Chapter 7 of the book, The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope For People Leaving Destructive...
Sermon Ideas for Domestic Violence Awareness Month (October): A Biblical Guide for Pastors
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and many pastors are asking: How should the church address domestic violence from the pulpit? If you are looking for sermon ideas on...
25 Things to Do With Your Wedding Ring After Divorce
What Did You Do With Your Wedding and Engagement Ring After Divorce? I did an informal poll on my private Facebook Group: Life-Saving Divorce for Separated or Divorced...
Address Confidentiality Program – One Woman’s Experience
One Woman's Experience with the Address Confidentiality Program Note: This is not legal advice. "Sandy Beach" is a divorcee who left her violent husband and was able to use the...
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10 Highlights of “The Life-Saving Divorce” book [VIDEO with Transcript]
10 Highlights from the Life-Saving Divorce Book I'm sure you're busy and you don't have time to read an entire 446-page book. So I've done a 15-minute video of highlights for...
12 Tips for Talking with Alienated Kids
12 Tips for Talking with Angry or Alienated Kids How to Avoid 12 Common Mistakes When Your Child Is Pulling Away After Divorce UPDATED Feb 2026 — Divorce can be incredibly...
5 Types of Abuse and Control
"Don't blame yourself for provoking the abuse in your relationship. ln a healthy relationship you can make mistakes, get angry or even be critical and not pay such a high...