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Critique: Hope Restored Marriage Intensives Are Not the "Miracle" Abused Wives Seek If you are new, read this first: This is Part 1 of a series on Hope Restored Marriage Intensives. Click here for Part 2 on children. Click here for my survey on 5 major Christian...
There's meme going around in social media that appears to be a verse from the Bible, but it is not. It is a note in a study Bible placed just above a Bible verse. (And it's got an interesting history.) It contains this quote: "The Devil will exaggerate your mate's...
Bible Verses That Support Leaving Destructive People Have Nothing to Do with Them: Abuse and Boundaries in Scripture We were taught to love, love, love. And forgive, forgive, forgive. But many Christians were never shown the other side of Scripture—the many passages...
Abuse, Abandonment, and Adultery Are Biblical Grounds for Divorce MYTH: God Forbids All Divorce Except for Adultery TRUTH: Scripture permits divorce in more than one situation. Yes. The Bible condones divorce for more than one reason. The clearest biblical grounds...
Marriage Is a Conditional Covenant (Not an Unbreakable Promise) Biblically, marriage is a conditional covenant—not an unconditional one. Marriage includes mutual vows, and persistent covenant-breaking through adultery, abuse, abandonment, or severe neglect violates...
When a God-Ordained Marriage Becomes Unsafe I thought it was God’s will for us to marry. I prayed earnestly. I asked for God’s guidance. I sought counsel from trusted Christians and believed I was following the Lord’s leading. Like many believers, I entered marriage...
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Gretchen Baskerville was interviewed for this article published by The Christian Post. It discusses the secret online groups that provide encouragement and understanding for women and men of faith who need a life-saving divorce. Tens of thousands of committed...
THIS WAS THE #1 DOWNLOADED EPISODE OF 2022 FOR THE UNTANGLE FAITH PODCAST: Host Amy Fritz and I talk about Bible verses about divorce (including 2 in the Old Testament that command divorce). We talk about Weekend to Remember, Christian authors, and Focus on the Family...
NEW PODCAST: Leslie Vernick interviewed me, Gretchen Baskerville, on the "Relationship Truth" podcast. Leslie Vernick - Enriching Relationships That Matter Most Vernick says, "Gretchen Baskerville was the ultimate good Christian girl. She followed all the "rules" so...
The Love Dare Gives You 40 Days to Change. What If You’re Not the Problem? The Love Dare, by Alex and Stephen Kendrick, gives one spouse 40 days of specific things to do to strengthen a marriage. Be patient. Be thoughtful. Give. Forgive. Sacrifice. Show love even when...
How to Make Money After Divorce When You’ve Been a Stay-at-Home Mom No job, no career, no money? Practical ways to rebuild your income after divorce One of the scariest questions I hear from women considering divorce is this: “How will I support myself?” Maybe you’ve...
Focus on the Family helped teach a generation of Christian parents that control was love, punishment produced character, children should not be allowed to “win,” and resistance revealed a rebellious will. Now that some of those children have grown up and ended contact...
John Piper on Wife Abuse: Did He Retract His “Smacked One Night” Advice? A firestorm broke out when John Piper's video mentioning a wife "being smacked one night" was released. Many people have heard John Piper’s notorious advice that an abused wife might endure...
Photo note: These are the two photographs published together in John Piper’s own article, “For Noël on Our 39th Anniversary.” Piper introduces them with the words, “As you can see from the pictures, some things change.” This Momentary Marriage: When Merely “Staying...
Are Christian Donors Funding a System That Keeps Abuse Victims Married? Focus on the Family receives desperate calls about abuse every week. What happens next? Most Christians who give to Focus on the Family have good intentions. They love healthy marriage. They love...
Why Does My Husband Stay Married If He’s Always Criticizing Me? From time to time, confused wives say something like this to me: “He says I’m selfish, lazy, disrespectful, overweight, and a loser. He criticizes how I parent, how I spend money, how I dress, and even...
Book Review: Lies Girls Believe Lies Girls Believe by Dannah Gresh (part of the Lies Women Believe series by Nancy Leigh DeMoss Wolgemuth) contains some genuinely helpful Christian ideas—God loves you, sin matters, feelings are not infallible, and friendship can be...
You Were Sent Here Because You’re Quoting Linda Waite’s First Book. Twenty-Five Years Later, Her Own Research Has Changed the Story. Linda Waite is still pro-marriage. But her later work is far less confident that marriage automatically makes people happier,...