50 Abused Wives and Husbands Answer the Question: "Why Did You Stay So Long?" People wonder why abused women and men stay with a dangerous spouse for so long. I asked people in...
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Why Did I Stay So Long When I Had Serious Grounds for Divorce?
Why did I stay so long when I had 100% serious biblical grounds for divorce? I asked this question in my private Facebook group, and here are some of the answers I received...
12 Half-Truths in “How Could Divorce Affect My Kids?” from Focus on the Family by Amy Desai, J.D.
Fact check of the article "How Could Divorce Affect My Kids?" by Amy Desai, J.D., on the Focus on the Family website. WARNING: This article has 12 half-truths in it. It misleads...
Top 5 Myths About Divorce that Don’t Apply to Christians and Others of Deep Faith
5 MYTHS OF DIVORCE THAT DON'T APPLY TO COMMITTED CHRISTIANS (OR TO OTHER DEEPLY RELIGIOUS PEOPLE) Let’s face it, well-meaning friends and family and even counselors give us...
My Pastor Never Told Me Divorce Could Be Good for Kids
Why Didn't Our Churches Tell Us the Truth about Children and Divorce? For decades, many of us stayed far longer than we should have—because we truly believed we were doing the...
7 Ways Churches Can Address Emotional Abuse in Christian Marriages
Summary: This article gives 7 ways churches-especially Evangelical churches-can address emotional abuse in Christian marriages better. Then this article documents 7 problems and...
Focus on the Family and Divorce: Why Abuse Victims Are Pressured to Stay
Focus on the Family Does Not Condone Divorce for Abuse Abuse Is Acknowledged — But Never Named as Biblical Grounds for Divorce Updated Jan 26, 2026—For decades, Focus on the...
Christian Authors and Psychologists Now Say Emotional Abuse is Grounds for Divorce
Some Christian Marriage Authors and Counselors are Starting to Change their Minds about Physical and Emotional Abuse Some Christian authors and speakers now accept physical and...
Emerson Eggerichs’s Book Enables Abuse—Leading to Divorce
Summary: 25 reviews of Emerson Eggerichs's book Love and Respect by people who read the book. Most found it to be harmful. Many women say the book made their husbands feel...
Stop Bashing Divorce Survivors From the Pulpit
No! Not Another Sermon That Bashes Innocent Divorce Survivors! It’s painful when Valentine’s Day falls on Sunday — or when the annual marriage sermon is on the schedule. Many...
Why Do So Many Christian Marriages Have Sexual Abuse and Marital Rape?
Painful sex, marital rape, sexless marriages, and sexual coercion in Christian marriages are serious problems. Why do they exist? What can be done? VIDEO #1 HOW CAN WE...
Does the Waite and Gallagher Study Really Say Your Marriage Will Become Happy If You Stay 5 Years? No!
Pastors, Christian marriage authors, and Christian radio programs like to quote the study by Dr. Linda Waite and journalist Maggie Gallagher, who found, "Two out of three...
What Was the Puritan View of Divorce?
What Was the Puritan View of Divorce? Were There Any Puritan Divorces? Although the Puritans wanted to create a godly society in America, they were realistic about abuse,...
John Calvin Said Abused Wives Should Be Set Free
Does God Want an Abused Spouse to Stay? John Calvin’s birthday is July 10, and I want to talk about something many Christians have never heard: Calvin was not soft on men who...
List of Puritan Divorces Between 1639 and 1692
This table shows every known divorce among the Massachusetts Puritans 1639-1692. There are 40 divorces listed and the columns give the record location and page, the date, the...
Does God Hate Divorce? What Malachi 2:16 Really Means
This page includes a timeline and side-by-side translation charts for visual learners. Or view 11-minute video [multiple language option] Does God Hate Divorce? What Malachi 2:16...
Marriage Counseling in Abusive Situations is Unethical
Why Couples Counseling When There’s Abuse Isn’t Just Unhelpful—It Can Be Dangerous Many well-meaning therapists don’t understand: couples counseling is clinically...
How a Focus on the Family Divorce-and-Kids Article Nearly Killed Me
How Focus on the Family Misled Me to Believe Divorce Was Worse for Children Than Abuse Summary: Patricia tells her story of being in an abusive marriage, and how a Focus on the...
Good vs Bad Pastoral Counselors: Marital Abuse
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor About Your Marriage Problems? Stories from the Survey: Some Good Experiences and Some Bad Ones First: Good Experiences with a Pastor (Editor's...
Good vs Bad Pastoral Counselors
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor Your Marriage Problems? In 2020, an informal Facebook survey question was posed to 800 Christians who were considering or had gotten a...
Do my pastors have a say about me getting a divorce?
Does my pastor have to give permission for me to divorce? No. Your pastor does not get to decide or grant permission. Your pastors may have influence in your church community,...