Abusive Marriage? It Might Not Be Your Fault You Didn’t See the Red Flags For a short audio summary, listen here: Many survivors are told—by others or by their own inner...
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1 in 4 Highly Religious Marriages Report Intimate Partner Violence (Shocking Study)
1 in 4 Highly Religious U.S. Marriages Report Abuse How Common Is Abuse in Christian Marriages? Most people assume that deeply religious couples are protected from intimate...
He Never Hit Me: Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Marriage
HE NEVER HIT ME: SIGNS OF AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE MARRIAGE I interviewed Cindy Burrell who is the author of the book, "Why Is He So Mean to Me?" and a writer on the topic...
Is It Sexual Harassment If the Victim Didn’t Fight or Run?
Is It Sexual Harassment If the Victim Didn’t Fight or Run? Joseph and Potiphar’s Wife: A Biblical Example (Genesis 39) Yes. It is still sexual harassment — and it may still be...
Can I Divorce After Saying “For Better or For Worse”?
CAN I DIVORCE AFTER SAYING "FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE"? When committed people of faith promise "for better or for worse" in our wedding vows, we take those words seriously....
Does “For Better or For Worse” Mean I Cannot Divorce?
DOES "FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE" MEAN I CANNOT DIVORCE? Editor’s Note (2026): I’ve written a more comprehensive article examining all five traditional wedding vows (for...
Toxic People Love to Argue
Toxic people crave arguments! They love to challenge you and attack you, because they love being the center of attention. So any time they can tempt you to interact with...
How Do I Know If My Abusive Spouse Has Really Changed? 3 Signs That Matter
How Do I Know If My Spouse Has Really Changed? Summary: This article gives 3 ways you can know if your abusive or addicted spouse has really changed and 3 signs that they have...
Emerson Eggerichs’s Book Enables Abuse—Leading to Divorce
Summary: 25 reviews of Emerson Eggerichs's book Love and Respect by people who read the book. Most found it to be harmful. Many women say the book made their husbands feel...
12 Ways to Document Financial Issues and Child Support in a Divorce or Separation
How to Document Child Support and Expenses and Protect Yourself in Divorce or Separation Fewer than half of ex-spouses who are required to pay child support actually do pay it...
Creating a Victim Impact Statement for a High-Conflict Divorce
How to Document Abuse/Neglect for Your Victim Impact Statement (Part of this is an excerpt from Chapter 7 of the book, The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope For People Leaving...
Why Do So Many Christian Marriages Have Sexual Abuse and Marital Rape?
Painful sex, marital rape, sexless marriages, and sexual coercion in Christian marriages are serious problems. Why do they exist? What can be done? VIDEO #1 HOW CAN WE...
Harvard Study: No-Fault Divorce Saves Lives (Suicide, Violence, Homicide Drop)
Divorce Saves Lives When unilateral "no fault" divorce laws started passing one state at a time, starting with Governor Ronald Reagan in California in 1969, researchers wanted to...
Lundy Bancroft Interview: Why Does He Do That?
Lundy Bancroft is one of the best authors and speakers on the topic of abusive men in romantic relationships and how to know if they've changed. In this video, created and...
130 Examples of Abuse: Physical, Emotional, Sexual, Spiritual, Financial and Neglect
130 Examples of Abuse: Physical, Emotional, Sexual, Spiritual, Financial and Neglect Overt and covert abuse can be physical, emotional, sexual, financial, spiritual, or...
Good vs Bad Pastoral Counselors: Marital Abuse
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor About Your Marriage Problems? Stories from the Survey: Some Good Experiences and Some Bad Ones First: Good Experiences with a Pastor (Editor's...
Good vs Bad Pastoral Counselors
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor Your Marriage Problems? In 2020, an informal Facebook survey question was posed to 800 Christians who were considering or had gotten a...
12 Ways to Document and Protect Yourself & Kids in a Divorce
How to Document and Protect Yourself & Kids in a Divorce (This is an excerpt from Chapter 7 of the book, The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope For People Leaving Destructive...
Sermon Ideas for Domestic Violence Awareness Month – October
Sermon Ideas for Domestic Violence Awareness Month (October) This is the best domestic violence sermon I've ever heard. It's from Pastor Neil Schori, of the Edge Church, Aurora,...
Am I the One Destroying the Relationship? Or Is This Abuse?
Am I the One Destroying the Relationship? Why Victims of Abuse Often Blame Themselves For a short audio summary in multiple languages, listen here: Many people trapped in...
Turning Point 4: Help! I Am Alone with the Abuser (often Gray Divorce)
Turning Point 4: Help! I Am Alone with the Abuser (Retirement or Life after the Kids Leave the Nest) Note about this "10 Turning Points" Series: A turning point is that...