by gbaskerville | Oct 13, 2020 | For Pastors, Gaslighting Examples, Myths
We were taught to love, love, love. And forgive, forgive, forgive. But no-one ever showed us all the Bible verses telling us to get away from, have nothing to do with, and refuse to even eat with abusive, unfaithful, swindling, jealous, money-obsessed, boastful,...
by gbaskerville | Oct 13, 2020 | Gaslighting Examples, High-Conflict Divorces
This simple infographic explains the difference between "No Contact," "Gray Rock" (Grey Rock), and "Yellow Rock." These are methods to deal with manipulative, controlling, or difficult people in your life. You are welcome to share this infographic. Gray Rock is a...
by gbaskerville | Aug 23, 2020 | Gaslighting Examples, Why Do We Divorce?, Will I Find Love Again?
Do We Blind Ourselves When We Date? They say "love is blind," and that's often true. We are so enthralled with our new romance, we don't see the worrisome aspects of our partner's character. We love being in love, so when we see troubling red flags we try to...
by gbaskerville | Aug 23, 2020 | Gaslighting Examples
I liked Theresa Newberry's story and I'm grateful for her permission to use it. Theresa wrote: "I was a wife who wanted to do everything that a Godly wife should do to keep her husband and marriage happy. Early in my Christianity, I went to many women's conferences...
by gbaskerville | Jul 1, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, First-person stories, Gaslighting Examples, Safe Churches & Friends
Churches that Excommunicate for Divorce And How to Protect Yourself and Your Children About Me: If you're new to my blog, read this first. I started leading Christian divorce recovery groups in Evangelical churches in 1998. I write about "life-saving divorces," those...
by gbaskerville | Jun 16, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, Gaslighting Examples, High-Conflict Divorces, Kids and Parental Alienation, Myths, What is a Life-Saving Divorce?
10 Highlights from the Life-Saving Divorce Book I'm sure you're busy and you don't have time to read an entire 446-page book. So I've done a 15-minute video of highlights for you. Just the key insights from the book and where to start if you want to read more. VIDEO...
by gbaskerville | May 18, 2020 | Abuse examples, Christians and Divorce, First-person stories, Gaslighting Examples
Story: One woman says her husband claims to be more committed to the marriage than she is (I'm grateful to this Christian woman for giving me permission to put her story in this blog post. And as always, I want to make it clear that sometimes it's the husband who is...
by gbaskerville | May 13, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, Gaslighting Examples
How Can I Claim to be the Innocent Spouse? I Had My Faults Too! Recently in my private Facebook group, we were talking about the Bible allowing remarriage for the innocent spouse after a valid divorce. After all, God doesn’t hold you responsible for your...
by gbaskerville | Feb 14, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, Gaslighting Examples, Myths, Why Do We Divorce?
Americans love marriage, and deeply religious Americans arguably love it more than anyone. The U.S. has one of the highest marriage rates of any peer country. As a nation we love tales of romance and true love. We lionize the nuclear family. And even though we don't...
by gbaskerville | Feb 13, 2020 | Abuse examples, Christians and Divorce, Gaslighting Examples, High-Conflict Divorces
Is it abuse or just a normal marriage with ups and downs? ©iStockPhoto "Don't blame yourself for provoking the abuse in your relationship. ln a healthy relationship you can make mistakes, get angry or even be critical and not pay such a high price. You are not...