Abusive Marriage? It Might Not Be Your Fault You Didn’t See the Red Flags For a short audio summary, listen here: Many survivors are told—by others or by their own inner...
Christians and Divorce
How to Defend Yourself against “You Made Your Bed; Now Lie in It”
How to Defend Yourself against “You Made Your Bed; Now Lie in It” 3 Reasons You Didn’t See Warning Signs or Red Flags One of the clearest signs someone is not a safe friend is...
15 Steps to Start the Divorce Process if You Need a Life-Saving Divorce
15 Steps to Starting the Divorce Process, if You Need a Life-Saving Divorce First, make sure you (and the kids) are safe. If your spouse has weapons or has a...
Critique: Focus on the Family’s “PEDOPHILIA IN MARRIAGE” Article—10 Pros and 10 Cons
Critique of the Focus on the Family article: "PEDOPHILIA in MARRIAGE" 10 Pros and 10 Cons about their Advice . (Summary: Does Focus on the Family's article"Pedophilia in...
10 Grounds for Divorce Recognized by the Puritans (1639–1692)
This table shows every known divorce among the Massachusetts Puritans from 1639 to 1692. Forty divorces are recorded, with columns listing the archival source, date, names of the...
Focus on the Family, Josh Duggar, and Pedophilia
Critique of the Focus on the Family article: PEDOPHILIA AND MARRIAGE 10 Pros and 10 Cons about their Advice . . Focus on the Family's online pedophilia article (link)...
Focus on the Family Doesn’t Condone Divorce for Abuse Victims
Divorce Saves Lives, But Focus on the Family Wants to Make it Harder for Abuse Victims to Divorce I know it's shocking. But Focus on the Family does not condone divorce for...
Focus on the Family’s Dangerous Push to Make Divorce Harder for Abuse Victims
Divorce Saves Lives — But Focus on the Family Wants to Make It Harder to Escape Many Christians have been taught that divorce is always a moral failure. But history, Scripture,...
Are Focus On The Family’s Hope Restored Marriage Intensive Miracle Claims True?
Critique: Hope Restored Marriage Intensives Are Not the "Miracle" Abused Wives Seek If you are new, read this first: This is Part 1 of a series on Hope Restored Marriage...
Review: Focus on the Family’s “What To Do About Toxic Behavior in Marriage”
Review: “What To Do About Toxic Behavior in Marriage” (Focus on the Family) Focus on the Family originally published this as an article called “Feeling Trapped in Your Marriage.”...
Nearly 6 in 10 Christians Leave Their Church After Divorce (Lifeway Data)
Nearly 6 in 10 Christians Switch Churches When They Divorce Most Divorcees Don’t Stay—And That Should Concern Church Leaders Lifeway Research found that nearly 6 in 10...
1 in 4 Highly Religious Marriages Report Intimate Partner Violence (Shocking Study)
1 in 4 Highly Religious U.S. Marriages Report Abuse How Common Is Abuse in Christian Marriages? Most people assume that deeply religious couples are protected from intimate...
DivorceCare Review: Pros, Cons, and What Abuse Survivors Should Know
DivorceCare® Review: Pros, Cons, and Who It Helps Most What DivorceCare® Is—and What to Know Before You Join DivorceCare® (DC) is a conservative Christian divorce recovery...
12 Facts about Divorce that Focus On The Family Doesn’t Tell You
12 THINGS FOCUS ON THE FAMILY DOESN'T TELL YOU ABOUT DIVORCE AND CHRISTIANS As Christians, we believe in God's plan for marriage, that it be loving, undefiled, and lifelong. But...
Is “The Devil will exaggerate your mate’s failures” a Real Bible Verse?
There's meme going around in social media that appears to be a verse from the Bible, but it is not. It is a note in a study Bible placed just above a Bible verse. (And it's got...
Churches & Christian Denominations with Unsafe Divorce Policies for Abused Spouses
Churches & Denominations with Unsafe Official Divorce Policies for Abused Spouses If you belong to one of these denominations or attend one of their churches, please contact...
He Never Hit Me: Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Marriage
HE NEVER HIT ME: SIGNS OF AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE MARRIAGE I interviewed Cindy Burrell who is the author of the book, "Why Is He So Mean to Me?" and a writer on the topic...
How To Tell the Kids About The Divorce
HOW DO WE TELL THE KIDS ABOUT OUR DIVORCE? Note: This article is for difficult divorces, not for amicable divorces. Why Telling the Kids Together Doesn’t Always Work Many...
Is It Sexual Harassment If the Victim Didn’t Fight or Run?
Is It Sexual Harassment If the Victim Didn’t Fight or Run? Joseph and Potiphar’s Wife: A Biblical Example (Genesis 39) Yes. It is still sexual harassment — and it may still be...
Why Did I Stay So Long When I Had Serious Grounds for Divorce?
Why did I stay so long when I had 100% serious biblical grounds for divorce? I asked this question in my private Facebook group, and here are some of the answers I received...
12 Half-Truths in “How Could Divorce Affect My Kids?” from Focus on the Family by Amy Desai, J.D.
Fact check of the article "How Could Divorce Affect My Kids?" by Amy Desai, J.D., on the Focus on the Family website. WARNING: This article has 12 half-truths in it. It misleads...



















