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Am I Being Abused? Am I in Danger? Free Questionnaires and Assessments Are you wondering whether you’re being abused—or whether this is a typical marriage with normal highs and lows? Do you live with fear, confusion, secrecy, control, or pressure when you’re exhausted...
Why Couples Counseling When There’s Abuse Isn’t Just Unhelpful—It Can Be Dangerous Many well-meaning therapists don’t understand: couples counseling is clinically contraindicated—and therefore unethical—when there is abuse. Most marriage counselors and pastors...
Bible Verses That Support Leaving Destructive People Have Nothing to Do with Them: Abuse and Boundaries in Scripture We were taught to love, love, love. And forgive, forgive, forgive. But many Christians were never shown the other side of Scripture—the many passages...
How Focus on the Family Misled Me to Believe Divorce Was Worse for Children Than Abuse Summary: Patricia tells her story of being in an abusive marriage, and how a Focus on the Family article, "How Could Divorce Affect My Kids?" convinced her to stay with her...
The old "Stay for the Kids" myth suggests that kids will be so destroyed by your divorce, that you should never leave, even if there is a pattern of abuse, sexual immorality, addictions, criminality, other destructive behaviors in your marriage. It also suggests that...
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor About Your Marriage Problems? Stories from the Survey: Some Good Experiences and Some Bad Ones First: Good Experiences with a Pastor (Editor's comments in brackets with italics) The pastors followed up with me."I have to say I was so...
Quick Fact: The Majority of Children from Divorced Families Turn Out Fine It's common to hear the old stereotype that the majority of children of divorce are deeply troubled. But researchers have known since the mid-1980s, that simply isn't true. The majority of kids...
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor Your Marriage Problems? In 2020, an informal Facebook survey question was posed to 800 Christians who were considering or had gotten a divorce: How did your pastor respond when you disclosed abuse in your marriage? What do you...
How to Document and Protect Yourself & Kids in a Divorce (This is an excerpt from Chapter 7 of the book, The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope For People Leaving Destructive Relationships.) In very troubled divorces where one parent lies frequently and refuses to...