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130 Examples of Abuse: Physical, Emotional, Sexual, Spiritual, Financial and Neglect Overt and covert abuse can be physical, emotional, sexual, financial, spiritual, or neglectful. This post is adapted from chapter 4 of The Life-Saving Divorce. For more on this, see...
Is It Best to “Stay for the Kids”? What Decades of Research Actually Show 🔍 2026 Research Update: What Helps Kids Most After Divorce Decades of research—including work from Harvard University—show that children’s long-term well-being depends far more on safety,...
How Focus on the Family Misled Us to Believe Divorce Was Worse for Children Than Abuse! • About Me: If you're new to my blog, read this first. I'm a committed Evangelical Christian. I attend church, tithe, serve, volunteer, and lead Bible studies. I started leading...
Am I Being Abused? Am I in Danger? Free Questionnaires and Assessments Are you wondering whether you’re being abused—or whether this is a typical marriage with normal highs and lows? Do you live with fear, confusion, secrecy, control, or pressure when you’re exhausted...
Why Couples Counseling When There’s Abuse Isn’t Just Unhelpful—It Can Be Dangerous Many well-meaning therapists don’t understand: couples counseling is clinically contraindicated—and therefore unethical—when there is abuse. Most marriage counselors and pastors...
Bible Verses That Support Leaving Destructive People Have Nothing to Do with Them: Abuse and Boundaries in Scripture We were taught to love, love, love. And forgive, forgive, forgive. But many Christians were never shown the other side of Scripture—the many passages...
How Focus on the Family Misled Me to Believe Divorce Was Worse for Children Than Abuse Summary: Patricia tells her story of being in an abusive marriage, and how a Focus on the Family article, "How Could Divorce Affect My Kids?" convinced her to stay with her...
The old "Stay for the Kids" myth suggests that kids will be so destroyed by your divorce, that you should never leave, even if there is a pattern of abuse, sexual immorality, addictions, criminality, other destructive behaviors in your marriage. It also suggests that...
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor About Your Marriage Problems? Stories from the Survey: Some Good Experiences and Some Bad Ones First: Good Experiences with a Pastor (Editor's comments in brackets with italics) The pastors followed up with me."I have to say I was so...