by gbaskerville | May 6, 2021 | Abuse examples, Gaslighting Examples
Toxic people crave arguments! They love to challenge you and attack you, because they love being the center of attention. So any time they can tempt you to interact with them, they consider it a big win. They love to suck up your time and attention. They...
by gbaskerville | May 2, 2021 | Safe Churches & Friends
Book Review: Before You Say "I Do," by Norman Wright and Wes Roberts I went through this Christian premarital workbook 35 years ago, before I got married. But later I had to divorce. It was a life-saving divorce. It was necessary, and the red flags were...
by gbaskerville | Apr 30, 2021 | Adultery and Infidelity, Christians and Divorce, Divorce and Children, Divorce Bible Verses, For Pastors, Gaslighting Examples, Myths, Standers
5 MYTHS OF DIVORCE THAT DON'T APPLY TO COMMITTED CHRISTIANS (OR TO OTHER DEEPLY RELIGIOUS PEOPLE) Let’s face it, well-meaning friends and family and even counselors give us advice on fixing our marriages: Try harder, pray more, be more agreeable, have more sex. But...
by gbaskerville | Apr 25, 2021 | Divorce and Children, Focus on the Family, For Pastors
Why Didn't Our Pastors, Christian Authors, or Christian Radio Programs Tell Us the Truth? Sometimes Divorce is Good for Kids! Why Didn't Anyone Tells Us the Truth? Divorce Is Likely Better for Kids than Staying in Highly Toxic Homes —Why didn't we know?...
by gbaskerville | Apr 18, 2021 | Abuse examples, Adultery and Infidelity, For Pastors, What is a Life-Saving Divorce?
Summary: This article gives 3 ways you can know if your abusive or addicted or cheating or lying spouse has really changed. Or watch the 20-min. video version on YouTube. About Me: I’ve been a Christian divorce recovery leader in conservative churches since 1998. For...
by gbaskerville | Apr 17, 2021 | Uncategorized
Boundaries Book Discussion Group Calendar for April - June 2021 (We will not watch a video every week) Boundaries Book Discussion Group Calendar April 14-June 9, 2021 Week Date READ Boundaries Book WATCH Boundaries Video (if any) 1 4/14 Chapter 1 – A Day in a...
by gbaskerville | Apr 9, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
Summary: This article gives 7 ways churches—especially Evangelical churches—can address emotional abuse in Christian marriages better. This article documents 7 problems and gives 7 solutions for pastors, church staff, and lay leaders. And here is the 20-min. video...
by gbaskerville | Apr 1, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Divorce Bible Verses, Focus on the Family, For Pastors
Focus on the Family Keeps Changing their View of Biblical Divorce —but Not for Abuse Victims Did you know Focus on the Family had held 3 conflicting views of biblical divorce in the past two years? It's so confusing. —Two reasons for divorce (but they don't...
by gbaskerville | Apr 1, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Divorce and Children, Focus on the Family, For Pastors
Some Christian Marriage Authors and Counselors are Starting to Change their Minds about Physical and Emotional Abuse Some Christian authors and speakers now accept physical and emotional abuse as biblical grounds for divorce. We need to honor their willingness...
by gbaskerville | Mar 18, 2021 | Abuse examples, Christians and Divorce, Divorce Bible Verses, First-person stories, Focus on the Family, For Pastors
Summary: 25 reviews of Emerson Eggerichs's book Love and Respect by people who read the book. Most found it to be harmful. Many women say the book made their husbands feel entitled to abuse them, even though the wives bent over backwards to be respectful. If you’re...
