by gbaskerville | Jan 22, 2022 | Abuse examples, Gaslighting Examples, Safe Churches & Friends
Toxic people crave arguments! They love to challenge you and attack you, because they love being the center of attention. So any time they can tempt you to interact with them, they consider it a big win. They love to suck up your time and attention. They...
by gbaskerville | Jan 13, 2022 | Focus on the Family, High-Conflict Divorces
Critique: “The Effects of Divorce On Children” Video by Focus on the Family 12 Mistakes in this Video This is a critique of the new video, “The Effects of Divorce On Children” from Focus on the Family, featuring Danny Huerta, Tim Sanford, and John Trent ...
by gbaskerville | Jan 12, 2022 | High-Conflict Divorces
What is a Flying Monkey? In a divorce, a "flying monkey" is an ally your ex-spouse has won to their side. Often they start by driving a wedge between you and this person by subtly smearing your reputation over time. Below are some examples and at the bottom of this...
by gbaskerville | Jan 12, 2022 | Christians and Divorce, Focus on the Family
Someday I hope to pay this $200 award. (I've been offering a reward for months.) Someday I hope U.S. Focus on the Family will officially condone divorce for domestic violence and will add it to their list of accepted biblical reasons. Someday I hope U.S. Focus on the...
by gbaskerville | Dec 31, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Gaslighting Examples, High-Conflict Divorces, Myths, Safe Churches & Friends
Critique of the Saying, “Marriage is Hard. Divorce is Hard. Choose Your Hard” There’s a meme going around the internet and it starts with the line “Marriage is Hard. Divorce is Hard. Choose Your Hard.” . This maxim annoys me. It was written by some smug person...
by gbaskerville | Dec 30, 2021 | Abuse examples, Christians and Divorce, Gaslighting Examples
3 Reasons You Missed the Red Flags and Got into a Abusive or Unfaithful Marriage It's not your fault. People may accuse you of ignoring the warning signs before the wedding. You might be kicking yourself right now, saying "I should have seen that my...
by gbaskerville | Dec 30, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, High-Conflict Divorces
How to Defend Yourself against “You Made Your Bed; Now Lie in It” 3 Reasons You Didn’t See Warning Signs or Red Flags The surest sign that a person is a fake friend is one who says: “You Made Your Bed; Now Lie in It” They are blaming you, “You get...
by gbaskerville | Dec 30, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, High-Conflict Divorces
10 Steps to Starting the Divorce Process, if You Need a Life-Saving Divorce First, make sure you (and the kids) are safe. If your spouse has weapons or has a history of destructive behavior, you need to take precautions. If your spouse has a pattern of...
by gbaskerville | Dec 29, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Focus on the Family
Critique of the Focus on the Family article: "PEDOPHILIA in MARRIAGE" 10 Pros and 10 Cons about their Advice . (Summary: Does Focus on the Family's article"Pedophilia in Marriage" give good advice? This 2015 article starts with some questions from a nameless...
by gbaskerville | Dec 28, 2021 | Divorce and Children, Myths
If I Divorce, Will My Kid’s Marriage End in Divorce, Too? Most adults whose parents divorced do not divorce. They are likely to have lifelong marriages. The majority of people whose parents divorced have lifelong marriages. However, children from divorced homes...
