Pastors, Christian marriage authors, and Christian radio programs like to quote the study by Dr. Linda Waite, who found, "Two out of three unhappily married adults who avoided...
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What Was the Puritan View of Divorce?
What Was the Puritan View of Divorce? Were There Any Puritan Divorces? Although the Puritans wanted to create a godly society in America, they were realistic about abuse,...
John Calvin Was Better to Abused Wives Than His Followers Today Are
The famous Reformer John Calvin (1509-1564) was angry at men who abused their wives. He believed that cruelty in marriage was twice as bad as other violence because it happens in...
List of Puritan Divorces Between 1639 and 1692
This table shows every known divorce among the Massachusetts Puritans 1639-1692. There are 40 divorces listed and the columns give the record location and page, the date, the...
18 Bible Translations of Malachi 2:16: Does God Hate Divorce?
Hasn't the Bible Always Said, "God hates divorce"? No. This comparison chart (below) of 18 translations of Malachi 2:16 from before the time of Christ (the Septuagint) to today...
Marriage Counseling in Abusive Situations is Unethical
Many Well-Meaning Therapists Don't Understand: It's Unethical To Do Couples Counseling When There's Abuse WHY? BECAUSE THESE COUNSELORS ACCIDENTALLY SIDE WITH THE ABUSER! ...
The Bible Teaches Us to Get Away from Abusers
We were taught to love, love, love. And forgive, forgive, forgive. But no-one ever showed us all the Bible verses telling us to get away from, have nothing to do with, and refuse...
How a Focus on the Family Divorce-and-Kids Article Nearly Killed Me
How Focus on the Family Misled Me to Believe Divorce Was Worse for Children Than Abuse Summary: Patricia tells her story of being in an abusive marriage, and how a Focus on the...
Good vs Bad Pastoral Counselors: Marital Abuse
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor Your Marriage Problems? In 2020, an informal Facebook survey question was posed to 800 Christians who were considering or had gotten a...
Good vs Bad Pastoral Counselors
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor Your Marriage Problems? In 2020, an informal Facebook survey question was posed to 800 Christians who were considering or had gotten a...
Do my pastors have a say about me getting a divorce?
Do my pastors have a say about me getting a divorce? Many pastors are well-meaning and caring, but they are completely naive about the deceit and tactics of charming spouses who...
7 Ways to Know if a Church is Safe for Abuse Victims or Divorcees
7 Ways to Know if a Church is Safe for Abuse Victims or Divorcees Are you looking for a new church when you need a separation or divorce? Did you know that nearly 6 in 10...
Sermon Ideas for Domestic Violence Awareness Month (October)
Sermon Ideas for Domestic Violence Awareness Month (October) This is the best domestic violence sermon I've ever heard. It's from Pastor Neil Schori, of the Edge Church, Aurora,...
50 Most Popular Blog Posts
50 MOST POPULAR BLOG POSTS 50 MOST POPULAR BLOG POSTS What is a Life-Saving Divorce? How Do We Know Half of Divorces are “Life-Saving”? (or watch the video) Life-Saving Divorce:...
Divorce Policy Comparison Chart: 40 Church Denominations
About Me: If you're new to my blog, read this first. I'm a committed Evangelical Christian. I attend, I tithe, I serve, I volunteer, I lead Bible studies. I started leading...
Dear Pastor (Notes from an Abused Christian Wife)
(Background: Here are two letters from devout Christian wives who were abuse victims. Brenda L. gave me permission to share her notes publicly. When she went to her former pastor...
Churches That Block Abused Wives (and Husbands) From Divorcing
About Me: If you're new to my blog, read this first. I'm a committed Evangelical Christian. I started leading Christian divorce recovery groups in conservative churches in 1998. ...
1 Million God-honoring Divorcees Cannot Find a Safe Church
1 Million God-honoring Divorcees Cannot Find a Safe Church...and that's a shame because Evangelical churches care about outreach. I'm one of the fortunate Christian...
Divorce and the Good Samaritan Story
If you're new to my blog, read this first. I started leading Christian divorce recovery groups in Evangelical churches in 1998. I write about "life-saving divorces," those...
Sermon Ideas for Domestic Violence Awareness Month – October
Sermon Ideas for Domestic Violence Awareness Month (October) This is the best domestic violence sermon I've ever heard. It's from Pastor Neil Schori, of the Edge Church, Aurora,...
Southern Baptists make Evangelicalism Unsafe for Abused Wives & Husbands
Abused and Betrayed Christian Divorcees are Leaving the Church Today, I'm going after the Southern Baptists who in 2010 made the lives of abused wives and abused husbands just a...