There's meme going around in social media that appears to be a verse from the Bible, but it is not. It is a note in a study Bible placed just above a Bible verse. (And it's got an interesting history.) It contains this quote: "The Devil will exaggerate your mate's...
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The Bible Teaches Us to Get Away from Abusers
We were taught to love, love, love. And forgive, forgive, forgive. But no-one ever showed us all the Bible verses telling us to get away from, have nothing to do with, and refuse to even eat with abusive, unfaithful, swindling, jealous, money-obsessed, boastful,...
Adultery, Abuse, Abandonment are Biblical Grounds for Divorce
MYTH: God forbids all divorce, or all divorce is sin unless it's for adultery. TRUTH: Scripture shows that God gives permission for divorce in many situations. And modern Bible translations no longer translate Malachi 2:16 as God saying "I hate divorce." The NIV,...
Is Marriage an Unconditional Covenant?
Loading the Elevenlabs Text to Speech AudioNative Player... Is Marriage an Unconditional Covenant, Since God Never Breaks His Promises? About Me: My name is Gretchen Baskerville and I'm the author of "The Life-Saving Divorce": Hope for People Leaving Destructive...
But I Thought it Was God’s Will for Me to Marry this Person!
I thought it was God's will for us to marry. I prayed and asked for the Lord's leading. Did God make a mistake? Did I make a mistake? Did I misunderstand God? Was I just lying to myself? Did some sin from my past cause God to give me a bad spouse? That's what many...
But He Never Hit Me: Divorce for Neglect, Emotional, and Financial Abuse
As a lay divorce recovery leader in churches for the past 20 years, it's been my privilege to hear a lot of stories of committed Christians who had to leave their destructive marriages for the sake of their life or sanity. In this post, you'll meet Annette and hear...
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Christian Post Article: “Spouses Suffering Abuse Find Empowerment to Leave Destructive Marriages in Secret Online Groups” by Brandon Showalter
Gretchen Baskerville was interviewed for this article published by The Christian Post. It discusses the secret online groups that provide encouragement and understanding for women and men of faith who need a life-saving divorce. Tens of thousands of committed...

PODCAST: Untangled Faith Interview Gretchen Baskerville “What We’ve Gotten Wrong About Divorce”
THIS WAS THE #1 DOWNLOADED EPISODE OF 2022 FOR THE UNTANGLE FAITH PODCAST: Host Amy Fritz and I talk about Bible verses about divorce (including 2 in the Old Testament that command divorce). We talk about Weekend to Remember, Christian authors, and Focus on the Family...

Leslie Vernick interviews Gretchen Baskerville on Destructive Christian Marriages and Divorce on the “Relationship Truth Podcast”
NEW PODCAST: Leslie Vernick interviewed me, Gretchen Baskerville, on the "Relationship Truth" podcast. Leslie Vernick - Enriching Relationships That Matter Most Vernick says, "Gretchen Baskerville was the ultimate good Christian girl. She followed all the "rules" so...
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Gray Divorce: One Woman Tells Her Story
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