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When a God-Ordained Marriage Becomes Unsafe I thought it was God’s will for us to marry. I prayed earnestly. I asked for God’s guidance. I sought counsel from trusted Christians and believed I was following the Lord’s leading. Like many believers, I entered marriage...
He Never Hit Me: Annette’s Story of Emotional Abuse, Neglect, and Finding Freedom As a Christian lay divorce recovery leader for the past 25 years, it's been my privilege to hear a lot of stories of committed people of faith who had to leave their destructive...
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Divorce and Child Custody Depositions: How to Prepare (What to Expect) One of my readers recently asked how to prepare for a child custody deposition. If you've never been through one before, it's completely understandable to feel nervous. Fortunately, a deposition is...
A young married pastor recently wrote to me as if I had not weighed the cost of divorce carefully enough. Here's my message to him: Young man, devout Christians in horrific marriages have weighed the costs and benefits of divorce 100 times more than you have. They...
Best Parenting Plan Workbook for High-Conflict Divorce There are many good parenting plan resources, but they do not all serve the same kind of parent. Some parenting plan books are written for parents who are basically reasonable, even if they disagree. Some are...
Dating Safety Screening Important: This tool is based on the 7 antisocial traits. It is a private dating (or premarital) screening questionnaire for identifying patterns of deception, coercion, aggression, irresponsibility, sexual secrecy, lack of remorse, and safety...
Divorce Wasn’t “Easy.” For Many, It Took Years. When policymakers talk about making divorce harder, they often seem to imagine careless people casually walking away from decent marriages. That is not what I see. I recently surveyed 323 respondents in the Life-Saving...
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly in His Needs, Her Needs Willard F. Harley Jr.’s His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage includes the typical good advice for ordinary, safe marriages: honesty is important, affairs are condemned, fathers should be...
Divorce Is Not the Mass-Shooter Warning Sign People Think It Is In The Violence Project data, childhood trauma / abuse appears more often than parental divorce — 33–68% compared with 22%. When tragedies happen, people often search for one simple explanation. In...
Seven of the Most Troubling Teachings in Lies Women Believe, by Nancy Leigh DeMoss Wolgemuth The book Lies Women Believe is not dangerous because of one isolated sentence. It is dangerous because of the pattern. Again and again, women’s instincts for safety, autonomy,...
Is Your Spouse Pushing for a Fast Divorce? 12 Hidden Motives in a Controlling Marriage Question from a reader: “Why would an abusive spouse want to speed up the divorce?” For some people a fast divorce can sound like a relief. When you have been living with...