by gbaskerville | Oct 13, 2020 | For Pastors, Gaslighting Examples, Myths
We were taught to love, love, love. And forgive, forgive, forgive. But no-one ever showed us all the Bible verses telling us to get away from, have nothing to do with, and refuse to even eat with abusive, unfaithful, swindling, jealous, money-obsessed, boastful,...
by gbaskerville | Oct 11, 2020 | Divorce and Children, Focus on the Family, For Pastors, High-Conflict Divorces, Myths
How Focus on the Family Misled Me to Believe Divorce Was Worse for Children Than Abuse Summary: Patricia tells her story of being in an abusive marriage, and how a Focus on the Family article, “How Could Divorce Affect My Kids?” convinced her to stay with her...
by gbaskerville | Sep 16, 2020 | Abuse examples, First-person stories, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor Your Marriage Problems? In 2020, an informal Facebook survey question was posed to 800 Christians who were considering or had gotten a divorce: How did your pastor respond to when you disclosed abuse in your marriage? What do you...
by gbaskerville | Sep 14, 2020 | Abuse examples, First-person stories, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor Your Marriage Problems? In 2020, an informal Facebook survey question was posed to 800 Christians who were considering or had gotten a divorce: How did your pastor respond to when you disclosed abuse in your marriage? What do you...
by gbaskerville | Sep 9, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
Do my pastors have a say about me getting a divorce? Many pastors are well-meaning and caring, but they are completely naive about the deceit and tactics of charming spouses who abuse, cheat, or are addicted. Many pastors love the Lord and believe in miracles, but...
by gbaskerville | Sep 7, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
7 Ways to Know if a Church is Safe for Abuse Victims or Divorcees Are you looking for a new church when you need a separation or divorce? Did you know that nearly 6 in 10 churchgoing Christians switch churches when they go through a divorce or separation?...
