Myth 2
This is Myth 2 of 27 Myths about divorce that aren't likely to be true of people who love God and take their faith seriously. These messages make us worry if we're pleasing God. They contain little accusations that our motives aren't right. They make us second-guess ourselves when we try to get ourselves and our children to safety. Many of us have heard these messages all our lives and wanted to avoid them.  So although these myths may be true for people who are selfish or immature, they aren't true for a person who invested their heart and soul into the relationship, even when the other person didn't.  See all the myths on one page. See the next myth.

Myth 2: You just don’t take God-ordained marriage seriously.

TRUTH: Life-saving divorcees took marriage very seriously. Their spouse didn’t—with their actions—even if their words claim they did.

This myth says all divorce happens because people just aren’t committed these days. They don’t take their marriage vows seriously. They don’t want to do the hard work to keep their promises made before God because they just don’t feel like it. People are quitters. They want the quick way out.

But this myth is not true of people who need life-saving divorces. Most of the people I see were very committed to their marriage vows, took their responsibilities seriously, and believed in the sanctity of marriage.

They invested in the marriage. But their spouse chose to be abusive or to cheat—and in doing so broke the covenant. An abuser or cheater forfeits the right to remain married.

Think about it this way. If a person hadn’t been committed to their marriage, hadn’t wanted it to be lifelong, and hadn’t been optimistic about change, they would have exited at the first sign of abuse. Abused spouses, de facto, are the ones who took their vows seriously and thought they could fix the marriage.

If you are a person who took your vows seriously, say to yourself:

  • I kept my vows before God—to love, nurture, and cherish—but my spouse did not.
  • Some divorces may be due to selfishness. Mine wasn’t.
  • I can take the Bible, God, my faith, and the institution of marriage seriously—and still choose to get divorced.

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