Know Divorce Laws In Your State or Country

Every state in the U.S has different laws about divorce. There is no federal divorce law. So it's important to educate yourself about your own jurisdiction's statutes on Marriage Dissolution, Divorce, Child Custody and Alimony, so you know what's typical or required for your state.

Most states, provinces and countries have websites that give citizens access. Some of the details that apply to everyone in the jurisdiction are listed below. Some may be found in statues and some may require information from an attorney as to what the norm is.  Below is general information. Specific information provided to clients may only be done by a licensed attorney.

Use the Divorce Facts in Your Jurisdiction to Gather and Organize this Information 

Topics you need to know in advance. https://www.divorcenet.com/topics/state-divorce-and-family-laws

• —1. Is divorce referred to by another name, like the "dissolution of marriage"?
• —2. Is mediation required by the court?
• —3. Is there a period of separation required before or after filing for divorce?
• —4. Do you live in a Community Property State or an Equitable Distribution State? This may affect how your property will be divided between the two parties.
• —5. How does your state handle alimony (aka "spousal support")?
• —6. What are the qualifying years for short-term marriage vs long-term marriage?
• —7. What determines the date of separation (start of divorce process)? This is very important. Some states base it on nights spent under the same roof. Some base it on having consensual sex. Having sex with your spouse can reset the separation clock. If your state has a waiting period, this might delay your divorce. You may have a spouse who knows this and encourages sex to delay the divorce process and take away your advantage. Find out if you can do an "in-home separation," and still qualify as separated legally.
• —18. If served papers, how much time is allowed for responding?
• —8. Does your state typically use Parenting Coordinators or Guardians ad Litem to represent your child’s legal rights?
• —9. Will your state require you to file a Parenting Plan that covers child custody, physical and legal custody of the children, visitation, and time-sharing guidelines?
• —10. Is a parenting class required? Can it be taken online or only in person?
• —11. Do you or your spouse have real estate or businesses that you brought into the marriage or have inherited? Look up the state's view of "marital" versus "non-marital" property?
• —12. Does your state allow you to hire an attorney for certain tasks without hiring them for the full divorce process? This is called "unbundled legal services," "limited scope representation," or "discrete task representation." aka a-la-carte services.
• —13. Can you remove guns or other weapons from the home if you're concerned about violence? Here's the link to gun and firearms laws in each state: https://www.disarmdv.org/
• —14. Residency Requirements: Have you resided in your state and county long enough to file for divorce or separation?
• —15. Grounds for Divorce: What reasons for divorce does your state recognize? All states in the U.S. have some form of no-fault divorce, if you don't want the expense or public exposure of a criminal-style trial.
• —16. Is Legal Separation an option in your state?  Six states do not recognize legal separation: Delaware, Texas, Pennsylvania, Mississippi, Georgia, and Florida.) What are the guidelines?
• —17. Can you qualify for reduced fees by asking for a "poor person's order"?
• —19. The waiting period between filing the Divorce Settlement Agreement and the Decree Date.
• —20. Child Support Calculators and Alimony (Spousal Support) Calculators. Many states have online published guidelines, either worksheets or online calculators to get a rough idea of what the court might grant you if you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse don't agree on the figure. (Do a search for "free child support calculator for ___[your state]___")
• —21. If you don't want to use an attorney, is there support on your court's website for pro-se Litigants (Do-It-Yourself or Self-Represented individuals)? (See links below)
• —22. Under what circumstances can I get a default judgment of dissolution/divorce (For example, what if my spouse cannot be found to serve legal papers, or what if he/she refuses to respond)?

 

 

Online Resources for Divorce Statutes

Resources for US States Divorce Laws:  https://www.divorcenet.com/topics/state-divorce-and-family-laws

United States Uniform Marriage and Divorce Act (UMDA 1973): https://www.uniformlaws.org/viewdocument/final-act-89?CommunityKey=c5a9ecec-095f-4e07-a106-2e6df459d0af&tab=librarydocuments

Resources for Canadian Divorce laws:  www.canadiandivorcelaws.com

Resources for Australian Divorce Laws: www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/family-law-matters/separation-and-divorce

Resources for UK Divorce Laws: www.gov.uk/divorce/overview

 

Child Support Calculators / Spousal Support Calculators (Alimony)

Child support and alimony (spousal support) calculators are online for some U.S. states. Know your state's general guidelines before you negotiate.
Do an online search for this phrase: child support calculator for [your state]  OR spousal support calculator for [your state]. Fill in the form to the best of your ability and see what the online calculator determines as an approximate support payment. For advice in your personal situation, consult with an attorney in your area.

 

Find out your Divorced Spouse Social Security Benefits

If you are 62 years old or older and were married for 10 years, and have not yet remarried, you may be eligible for social security benefits (even if your spouse has remarried). See https://www.benefits.gov/benefit/4388

 

Resources for High-Conflict Child Custody and Parental Alienation Situations

DV LEAP and the Dept. of Justice’s Office on Violence Against Women: Custody Resources

For books on parental alienation during or after divorce, scroll down to Topic 10 in the Life-Saving Divorce book list.

Office of Child Support Enforcement helps you collect back child support if your ex moves to another state: OSCE

Know how to show evidence that you put your child's best interest first: The Holley Factors.

For parents whose children are doing poorly in school due to ADD/ADHD, learning disabilities, trauma, visual/auditory, speech/language impairment, developmental delays, or other problems. Website: Wrightslaw.com

This website helps parents get help for their children so they don't fall behind or drop out of school. As a taxpayer in the United States, your children are entitled to receive a good education and accommodations if the child has disabilities. This website helps parents know their rights, advocate for their children, and know what local school districts are required to do and provide for their child. This website discusses the legal aspects, how to prepare for an IEP, how to request 504 accommodations, how to discuss the topic with teachers and administrators, and what strategies to use if the school doesn't seem to follow the proper legal guidelines to assist your child.  Another good website for parents, kids, adults, and educators is: https://www.understood.org/

Look up gun laws regarding domestic violence in your state.

Find out if you can remove your partner's weapons from the home: Note: Depending on the state, you may be able to remove weapons from the house. Here's the link to gun and firearms laws in each state: https://www.disarmdv.org/

 

Legal Information for Pro-Se Litigants (Representing Yourself without an Attorney)

• Self-Represented Litigation Network: srln.org
• SRLN State-by-State Page with links to forms, court pages, and in many states, court videos on how to represent yourself in your state. Scroll down to the chart showing the states. https://www.srln.org/taxonomy/term/141
• Directory of Legal Aid Websites: LawHelp.org
• Legal Hotlines: legalhotlines.org
• Find Legal Aid by State:Law Help:  https://www.lawhelp.org/find-help
• Find Legal Aid by State: Legal Service Center:  https://www.lsc.gov/what-legal-aid/find-legal-aid
• Case Study of Legal Aid Helping a Domestic Violence Victim: Legal Action of Wisconsin DV Case Study
• Do an online search to find a family law facilitator or a self-help center in your state (free advice in completing forms):
  • • Search: family law facilitator in [your state]
    • Search: family law self-help center in [your state]
• Some law schools have pro bono consulting
  • • Search: law schools pro bono in [your state]
    • Or call a law school in your state and ask to be connected to the person who handles pro bono family law (or child custody) cases.
• You may be able to hire paralegals to help you with documentation and filings, but they cannot give legal advice.
• You may be able to hire an attorney to look at a document or help you prepare a document. See “Unbundled Legal Services” below.
• Your employer may offer a voluntary legal benefits plan for a monthly fee deducted from your paycheck. Some of these plans may cover part of your family law costs. As an example, see https://www.uslegalservices.net/legal-insurance-plans/family-defender
• The American Bar Association does have volunteer attorneys who provide free legal answers to those who do not have attorneys. It's limited to 3 per year normally, but right now it is 5 due to COVID (2021). They do ask for the other party's name to do a conflicts check, but the asker and the attorney is anonymous (you basically become a ID # to them). https://www.abafreelegalanswers.org/

 

Videos on representing yourself in family law court without an attorney (pro-se litigants):

• PRO SE LEGAL BASICS. Do a search online for pro se legal basics
• CHILDREN AND DIVORCE: ON REPRESENTING YOURSELF in family court (State of Indiana Courts, but the general principles may apply in your state too)

 

Podcasts and Videos with General Tips on Family Law 

• Divorce Basics: Ask a Paralegal video
• Negotiating Like You Matter: short videos by attorney Rebecca Zung.
• ON STRATEGIES How to Represent Yourself in Court: Divorce Atty Rebecca Zung, Tina Swithin (founder One Mom's Battle), and Dr. Ramani (licensed psychologist)  Part 1   Part 2