by gbaskerville | Nov 19, 2020 | High-Conflict Divorces, Safe Churches & Friends
Escape Plan: If You Are Thinking About Leaving (UPDATED Aug 2021) An important note: These are basic lists for people who are in difficult relationships but not in physical danger right now. If you are in danger, get to safety any way you can, or call 9-1-1, or...
by gbaskerville | Nov 18, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
This table shows every known divorce among the Massachusetts Puritans 1639-1692. There are 40 divorces listed and the columns give the record location and page, the date, the names of the individuals, the cause of the divorce, the court (the jurisdiction), and the...
by gbaskerville | Oct 23, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
Many Well-Meaning Therapists Don't Understand: It's Unethical To Do Couples Counseling When There's Abuse WHY? BECAUSE THESE COUNSELORS ACCIDENTALLY SIDE WITH THE ABUSER! The Gottman Institute instructs therapists that half of the couples who come to see them...
by gbaskerville | Sep 16, 2020 | Abuse examples, First-person stories, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor Your Marriage Problems? In 2020, an informal Facebook survey question was posed to 800 Christians who were considering or had gotten a divorce: How did your pastor respond when you disclosed abuse in your marriage? What do you...
by gbaskerville | Sep 14, 2020 | Abuse examples, First-person stories, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor Your Marriage Problems? In 2020, an informal Facebook survey question was posed to 800 Christians who were considering or had gotten a divorce: How did your pastor respond when you disclosed abuse in your marriage? What do you...
by gbaskerville | Sep 9, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
Do my pastors have a say about me getting a divorce? Many pastors are well-meaning and caring, but they are completely naive about the deceit and tactics of charming spouses who abuse, cheat, or are addicted. Many pastors love the Lord and believe in miracles, but...
by gbaskerville | Sep 7, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
7 Ways to Know if a Church is Safe for Abuse Victims or Divorcees Are you looking for a new church when you need a separation or divorce? Did you know that nearly 6 in 10 churchgoing Christians switch churches when they go through a divorce or separation?...
by gbaskerville | Sep 1, 2020 | Abuse examples, For Pastors, High-Conflict Divorces, Safe Churches & Friends
Sermon Ideas for Domestic Violence Awareness Month (October) This is the best domestic violence sermon I've ever heard. It's from Pastor Neil Schori, of the Edge Church, Aurora, IL. He tells his own story of counseling a woman in his church who was a domestic violence...
by gbaskerville | Aug 19, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
About Me: If you're new to my blog, read this first. I'm a committed Evangelical Christian. I attend, I tithe, I serve, I volunteer, I lead Bible studies. I started leading Christian divorce recovery groups in conservative churches in 1998. Despite what we were...
by gbaskerville | Aug 16, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
(Background: Here are two letters from devout Christian wives who were abuse victims. Brenda L. gave me permission to share her notes publicly. When she went to her former pastor and church leaders for support and empathy during her abusive marriage, she was met with...