by gbaskerville | Dec 31, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Gaslighting Examples, High-Conflict Divorces, Myths, Safe Churches & Friends
Critique of the Saying, “Marriage is Hard. Divorce is Hard. Choose Your Hard” There’s a meme going around the internet and it starts with the line “Marriage is Hard. Divorce is Hard. Choose Your Hard.” . This maxim annoys me. It was written by some smug person...
by gbaskerville | Dec 30, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, High-Conflict Divorces
How to Defend Yourself against “You Made Your Bed; Now Lie in It” 3 Reasons You Didn’t See Warning Signs or Red Flags The surest sign that a person is a fake friend is one who says: “You Made Your Bed; Now Lie in It” They are blaming you, “You get...
by gbaskerville | Dec 30, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, High-Conflict Divorces
15 Steps to Starting the Divorce Process, if You Need a Life-Saving Divorce First, make sure you (and the kids) are safe. If your spouse has weapons or has a history of destructive behavior, you need to take precautions. If your spouse has a pattern of...
by gbaskerville | Sep 2, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Divorce and Children, First-person stories, High-Conflict Divorces, Kids and Parental Alienation, Parental alienation
HOW DO WE TELL THE KIDS ABOUT OUR DIVORCE? Note: This article is for difficult divorces, not for amicable divorces. Many books and articles recommend that you and the other parent should tell the children together. . But that works only if the reason for...
by gbaskerville | Mar 15, 2021 | Abuse examples, High-Conflict Divorces, Parental alienation
How to Document Child Support and Expenses and Protect Yourself in Divorce or Separation Fewer than half of ex-spouses who are required to pay child support actually do pay it in full. In difficult divorces where one parent may not play fair or follow the divorce...
by gbaskerville | Feb 11, 2021 | Abuse examples, High-Conflict Divorces, Parental alienation
How to Document Abuse/Neglect for Your Attorney and the Court (This is an excerpt from Chapter 7 of the book, The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope For People Leaving Destructive Relationships.) In very troubled divorces where one parent lies frequently and refuses to...
by gbaskerville | Jan 17, 2021 | Focus on the Family, For Pastors, High-Conflict Divorces, Safe Churches & Friends, What is a Life-Saving Divorce?
Pastors, Christian marriage authors, and Christian radio programs like to quote the study by Dr. Linda Waite, who found, "Two out of three unhappily married adults who avoided divorce or separation ended up happily married five years later." When this study came out...
by gbaskerville | Nov 25, 2020 | Abuse examples, Gaslighting Examples, High-Conflict Divorces, Kids and Parental Alienation
Lundy Bancroft is one of the best authors and speakers on the topic of abusive men in romantic relationships and how to know if they've changed. In this video, created and published by relationship coach Sarah K. Ramsey (who has an excellent YouTube channel for women...
by gbaskerville | Nov 19, 2020 | High-Conflict Divorces, Safe Churches & Friends
Escape Plan: If You Are Thinking About Leaving (UPDATED Aug 2021) An important note: These are basic lists for people who are in difficult relationships but not in physical danger right now. If you are in danger, get to safety any way you can, or call 9-1-1, or...
by gbaskerville | Nov 3, 2020 | Abuse examples, Adultery and Infidelity, Christians and Divorce, Gaslighting Examples, High-Conflict Divorces
130 Examples of Abuse and Control Overt and Covert Physical, Emotional, Sexual, Financial and Spiritual Abuse and Neglect From the book, The Life-Saving Divorce by Gretchen Baskerville. © 2020 Life Saving Press LLC All rights reserved. No part of this...
