by gbaskerville | Feb 22, 2021 | Abuse examples, First-person stories, Safe Churches & Friends
Men can be victims of chronic abuse, betrayal, and neglect too. In this article, you'll read the stories of two men, David and John, who were both married to emotionally abusive and manipulative wives. In 2019, I interviewed David for my book The Life-Saving...
by gbaskerville | Dec 15, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, First-person stories, Myths, Safe Churches & Friends, Why Do We Divorce?
What do you say if a dear Christian friend disagrees with your decision to divorce your destructive spouse? . What if they accuse you of making things up? . What if they are ill-informed about the tactics abusers use? . What if they pressure you, saying "holiness over...
by gbaskerville | Sep 16, 2020 | Abuse examples, First-person stories, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor Your Marriage Problems? In 2020, an informal Facebook survey question was posed to 800 Christians who were considering or had gotten a divorce: How did your pastor respond when you disclosed abuse in your marriage? What do you...
by gbaskerville | Sep 14, 2020 | Abuse examples, First-person stories, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
Is It Safe to Tell Your Pastor Your Marriage Problems? In 2020, an informal Facebook survey question was posed to 800 Christians who were considering or had gotten a divorce: How did your pastor respond when you disclosed abuse in your marriage? What do you...
by gbaskerville | Sep 1, 2020 | Adultery and Infidelity, First-person stories, High-Conflict Divorces
What Did You Do With Your Wedding and Engagement Ring After Divorce? In August 2020, there was an informal poll on my private Facebook Group: Life-Saving Divorce for Separated or Divorced Christians. Both men and women participated in the poll. See their 25 ideas and...
by gbaskerville | Aug 10, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, First-person stories, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
1 Million God-honoring Divorcees Cannot Find a Safe Church...and that's a shame because Evangelical churches care about outreach. I'm one of the fortunate Christian divorcees. I attend a loving church with a smart, empathetic, and humble pastor. I...
by gbaskerville | Jul 31, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, First-person stories
5 Christians Who Divorced and Are Thriving Now About Me: If you're new to my blog, read this first. I started leading Christian divorce recovery groups in Evangelical churches in 1998. I write about "life-saving divorces," those divorces that are for very serious...
by gbaskerville | Jul 21, 2020 | First-person stories, High-Conflict Divorces
One Woman's Experience with the Address Confidentiality Program Note: This is not legal advice. "Sandy Beach" is a divorcee who left her violent husband and was able to use the address confidentiality program to conceal her location. This is her story told in her own...
by gbaskerville | Jul 18, 2020 | Abuse examples, First-person stories, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
Sermon Ideas for Domestic Violence Awareness Month (October) This is the best domestic violence sermon I've ever heard. It's from Pastor Neil Schori, of the Edge Church, Aurora, IL. He tells his own story of counseling a woman in his church who was a domestic violence...
by gbaskerville | Jul 1, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, First-person stories, Gaslighting Examples, Safe Churches & Friends
Churches that Excommunicate for Divorce And How to Protect Yourself and Your Children About Me: If you're new to my blog, read this first. I started leading Christian divorce recovery groups in Evangelical churches in 1998. I write about "life-saving divorces," those...