by gbaskerville | Oct 11, 2020 | Divorce and Children, Focus on the Family, For Pastors, High-Conflict Divorces
How Focus on the Family Misled Me to Believe Divorce Was Worse for Children Than Abuse Summary: Patricia tells her story of being in an abusive marriage, and how a Focus on the Family article, “How Could Divorce Affect My Kids?” convinced her to stay with her...
by gbaskerville | Sep 26, 2020 | Divorce and Children, Myths
MYTH: It's Best to Stay for the Kids, Even if the Home is Abusive or Toxic TRUTH: Studies found that offspring raised in toxic homes that ended in divorce had higher wellbeing than offspring whose parents stayed married This myth suggests that kids will be so...
by gbaskerville | Sep 15, 2020 | Divorce and Children
Quick Fact: The Majority of Children from Divorced Families Turn Out Fine It's common to hear the old stereotype that the majority of children of divorce are deeply troubled. But researchers have known since the mid-1980s, that simply isn't true. The majority of kids...
by gbaskerville | Aug 21, 2020 | Divorce and Children, What is a Life-Saving Divorce?
Will I Ever Be Happy Again After Divorce? Question: I've heard divorce will destroy me and my kids forever. Is that true? Answer: No, in fact 7 in 10 Christians who divorce state they are happy. Often churches have been given misinformation about the effects...
by gbaskerville | Aug 9, 2020 | Divorce and Children, Parental alienation, Safe Churches & Friends
About Me: If you're new to my blog, read this first. I started leading Christian divorce recovery groups in Evangelical churches in 1998. I write about "life-saving divorces," those divorces that are for very serious reasons. "Life-Saving divorces" make up nearly half...
by gbaskerville | Jul 12, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, Divorce and Children, Safe Churches & Friends
Divorce vs. Legal Separation Many churches feel that legal separation is a good solution for an abused wife or husband because it fits their beliefs about Christians and divorce. But here are a few concerns: 1) Legal separation is not available in 6 states in the U.S....
by gbaskerville | Jul 3, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, Divorce and Children, Safe Churches & Friends
10 facts in just 3 minutes! It summarizes the best studies on kids and divorce. Each slide includes the source and the citation. For more studies about children and divorce, see Chapter 7 in the book, The Life-Saving Divorce by Gretchen Baskerville. ...
by gbaskerville | May 26, 2020 | Christians and Divorce, Divorce and Children
AUDIO PODCAST: Good News for Millennials. Just because your Boomer parents divorced, doesn't mean you will. Good News for Divorced Boomers: Just because you divorced, doesn't mean your kids will. ...
by gbaskerville | Apr 18, 2020 | Divorce and Children, Myths
Overview: This is Myth 22 of 27 Myths about divorce that aren't likely to be true of committed Christians who love God and take their faith seriously. Many of us have heard these messages all our lives. We wanted to avoid sin and do everything right! So although these...
by gbaskerville | Apr 17, 2020 | Divorce and Children, Myths
Overview: This is Myth 21 of 27 Myths about divorce that aren't likely to be true of committed Christians who love God and take their faith seriously. These messages make us worry if we're pleasing God. They make us second-guess ourselves when we try to get ourselves...