by gbaskerville | Nov 23, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
SWITCH CHURCHES, OR STAY, WHEN YOU DIVORCE? Nearly 6 in 10 Christians switch churches and leave their former church when they divorce. Lifeway Research (affiliated with the Southern Baptist Convention) did a survey of church-going Christian divorcees and found that...
by gbaskerville | Nov 5, 2021 | Abuse examples, Christians and Divorce, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
1-in-4 Highly Religious U.S. Marriages Have Abuse How many Christian marriages have abuse (intimate partner violence)? It’s difficult to believe, but the conservative pro-marriage researchers at the Institute for Family Studies, have reported that 1-in-4...
by gbaskerville | Nov 3, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
Review of DivorceCare® Divorce Recovery Groups: Pros and Cons DivorceCare® (DC) is a conservative Christian divorce recovery program used in about 10% of Protestant churches. It runs 13 weeks typically. To find a group near you, click here:...
by gbaskerville | Oct 29, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Focus on the Family
12 THINGS FOCUS ON THE FAMILY DOESN’T TELL YOU ABOUT DIVORCE AND CHRISTIANS As Christians, we believe in God's plan for marriage, that it be loving, undefiled, and lifelong. But we also believe divorce may be necessary in some cases. You know the kind of situations...
by gbaskerville | Oct 14, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Do I have biblical grounds for divorce?
There’s meme going around in social media that appears to be a verse from the Bible, but it is not. It is a note in a study Bible placed just above a Bible verse. (And it's got an interesting history.) It contains this quote: “The Devil will exaggerate your mate’s...
by gbaskerville | Sep 11, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Do I have biblical grounds for divorce?, For Pastors, Safe Churches & Friends
Churches & Denominations with Unsafe Official Divorce Policies for Abused Spouses If you belong to one of these denominations or attend one of their churches, please contact them. Even if your own pastor condones divorce for abuse, please write, call, or email...
by gbaskerville | Sep 11, 2021 | Abuse examples, Christians and Divorce, First-person stories
HE NEVER HIT ME: SIGNS OF AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE MARRIAGE I interviewed Cindy Burrell who is the author of the book, “Why Is He So Mean to Me?” and a writer on the topic of emotional abuse. She’s a mother of four. A survivor of a 20-year abusive marriage to a...
by gbaskerville | Sep 2, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Divorce and Children, First-person stories, High-Conflict Divorces, Kids and Parental Alienation, Parental alienation
HOW DO WE TELL THE KIDS ABOUT OUR DIVORCE? Note: This article is for difficult divorces, not for amicable divorces. Many books and articles recommend that you and the other parent should tell the children together. . But that works only if the reason for...
by gbaskerville | Aug 29, 2021 | Abuse examples, Christians and Divorce, For Pastors
HOW SEXUAL ABUSE VICTIMS RESIST Recently there was a tweet on Twitter talking about the biblical story of Joseph and Potiphar’s wife (Genesis 39). The tweet suggested that Joseph ran from the woman’s advances, therefore he was obviously an innocent victim. This...
by gbaskerville | Aug 22, 2021 | Christians and Divorce, Do I have biblical grounds for divorce?, First-person stories, For Pastors, Myths, What is a Life-Saving Divorce?
50 Abused Wives and Husbands Answer the Question: “Why Did You Stay So Long?” People wonder why abused women and men stay with a dangerous spouse for so long. I asked people in my private Facebook group (Life-Saving Divorce for Separated and Divorced...