Boundaries Book Discussion Group Calendar for April - June 2021
(We will not watch a video every week)
Boundaries Book Discussion Group Calendar
April 14-June 9, 2021
| Week | Date | READ Boundaries Book | WATCH Boundaries Video (if any) |
| 1 | 4/14 | Chapter 1 – A Day in a Boundaryless Life | Introduction video - https://is.gd/UOKbAM |
| 2 | 4/21 | Chapter 2 – What Does a Boundary look like? | Session 1 - https://is.gd/yXzB4x
[Optional] Session 2 This is a clinical discussion of depression and anxiety and we won’t be discussing this - https://is.gd/UmevLv |
| 3 | 4/28 | Chapter 3 – Boundaries Problems: 4 Personality Types: Compliants, Avoidants, Controllers, and Nonresponsives | No video this week. [Optional] Watch Bob Hamp video: “Dynamics of Abuse” https://is.gd/hycZWM
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| 4 | 5/5 | Chapter 5 –10 Laws of Boundaries (Laws 1-5, p. 85-94) | Session 3 – 29 min (Laws 1-5) https://is.gd/YD09Mv |
| 5 | 5/12 | Chapter 5 –10 Laws of Boundaries (Laws 6-10, p. 94-104) | Session 4 – 20 min (Laws 6-10) https://is.gd/LtwhQQ |
| 6 | 5/19 | Chapter 6 - Common Boundary Myths | Session 5 (29 min) - https://is.gd/RB0kLb |
| 7 | 5/26 | Chapter 9 - Boundaries in Marriage + 2 extra pages on Dating (p. 148-149) | Boundaries in Marriage (12 min) – (starts at 2:29) https://is.gd/uvlLsQ Boundaries in Dating (10 min) - https://is.gd/TPBvxR |
| 8 | 6/2 | Chapter 10 - Boundaries with Children | You pick the age of your kids:
· For children under 12 (50 min) – https://is.gd/BM6N0z · For teens (15 min)- https://is.gd/QcNaCR · For adult children (11 min) - https://is.gd/jSSBYe |
| 9 | 6/9 | Chapter 12 – Resistance to Boundaries – People will judge your freedom, truth, or righteousness. They will respond with anger. | Resistance to Boundaries (31 min) - https://is.gd/4A8lqr |
On Your Own: How to Measure Your Success with Boundaries – Chapter 16 of the Boundaries book for a checklist and this Session 8 video https://is.gd/au3TRC
Note: Cloud & Townsend's 2017 Edition of BOUNDARIES has 17 chapters. This discussion group focuses on the foundational chapters (Chapters 1-6), plus the chapters on marriage and dating and children (key topics for people who've had life-saving divorces or separations).
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- Jesus' Greatest Divorce Sermon - Luke 13 (or watch the Video)
- Pastors Who Accept Physical and Emotional Abuse as Grounds for Divorce
- Myth: The Person Who Files for Divorce Caused the Divorce
- Haven’t Our English Bibles Always Said, “God hates divorce”? No.
- Jesus Said, "Love My Enemy"—Can I Still Divorce Them?
- But I Thought it Was God's Will for Me to Marry this Person!
- Is Pointing Out Marriage-Endangering Sin Being Judgmental? (video)
- One Woman's Story: Adultery, Prayer and the Bible
- Is Marriage an Unconditional Covenant or a Conditional One? (Video)
- Does Divorce Shatter the Image of Christ and the Church as John Piper Suggests?
- Divorce and the Good Samaritan Story
- Myth: Divorce is the Unpardonable Sin and "God Hates Divorce"
- Myth: Your Divorce Will Shatter the Image of Christ and the Church
- Myth: You Must Forgive and Forget Over and Over, Forever
Does God Hate Divorce? No, Most English Bible Translations Don’t Say That
- Malachi 2:16 Haven’t Our English Bibles Always Said, “God hates divorce”? No.
- Myth: Divorce is the Unpardonable Sin and "God Hates Divorce"
- List of Every Known Puritan Divorce in Massachusetts between 1639 and 1692.
How to Find a Good Supportive Church
- Pastors Who Accept Physical and Emotional Abuse as Grounds for Divorce
- 7 Ways to Know if a Church is Safe for Abused Wives (or Abused Husbands)
- Do My Pastors Have a Say about Me Getting a Divorce?
- Good vs. Bad Pastoral Counselors on the Topic of Marital Abuse: 40 People Tell their Stories
What If My Pastor Says It Would Be Wrong to Get Divorced for Abuse?
- 5 Bible Verses that Say You Should Separate from an Abuser
- 1 Million God-honoring Divorcees Cannot Find a Good Church
- Church Denominations and Divorce Policies Comparison Chart
- Excommunication for Getting Divorced? What to Do!
- Evangelicals Shooting their Own Wounded Divorcees (video) or blog/transcript
- How to Handle Criticism When You Divorce (video-3 parts) Natalie Hoffman, Gina Kaye
- Myth: You Don't Take God-Ordained Marriage Seriously
- Sermon Ideas for Domestic Violence Awareness Month - October
- Churches That Block Abused Wives (and Husbands) From Divorcing
- Southern Baptists make Evangelicalism Unsafe for Abused Wives & Husbands
- How Churches Should Handle Abuse Victims (video with Pastor Neil Schori)
Divorce Saves Lives: The Surprising (Wonderful!) Truth About Divorce Nobody Told You
- Your Kids Will Likely Be Fine After Divorce (Nearly 8 in 10 Are!)
- 10 Facts Evangelical Pastors MUST Know about Kids and Divorce [VIDEO]
- There Is No Divorce Crisis. We have a Sin Crisis.
- Myth: 95% of Divorces are for Falling Out of Love
Will I Ever Find Love Again? Dating After Divorce: Good News
- Will I Ever Find Love Again?
- Dating after Divorce: An interview with Gina Kaye
- I Fear I'll Never Find a Healthy Relationship
- Remarriage after Divorce: How Can I Claim to be the Innocent Spouse? I Had My Faults Too!
Finding Happiness and Health After Divorce
- Will the Kids and I Ever Be Happy Again?
- Happiness Either Way: Remarriage or Staying Single
- Divorce May Improve Your Health: Depression, Suicidal Thoughts and Medical Issues
- How My Health Improved Dramatically After Divorce: Karen’s Story (video)
- “I’m Off of All My Depression Medications Now That I’ve Divorced” Schari’s story (video)
- PTSD, EMDR and My Major Health Improvements after Divorce Toni’s story (video)
Thriving After Divorce: These Christians Tell their Stories
- Christians Finding Peace after Divorce: Shirley Fessel, Author (Audio) or (Video)
- 10 Turning Points: Stories of How Others Decided to Stay or to Go
- Married to a Pedophile: How My Kids and I Got Free! (video)
- Finding Joy after a 40-Year Abusive Marriage (video)
- Can I Divorce My Mentally Ill, Destructive Spouse? Yes! Amanda’s Story (video)
- From Bondage to Glorifying God! 5 Survivor Stories (after 20-, 30-, 40-year long abusive marriages)
Self-Doubt, Second-Guessing Ourselves, and Gaslighting
- Am I the One Destroying the Relationship?
- How Can I Call Myself the Innocent Spouse? I Wasn’t Perfect Either (video)
- Is Pointing Out Marriage-Endangering Sin Being Judgmental? (video)
- Myth: He Wouldn't Cheat or Watch Porn if You Gave Him More Sex
- Myth: You're Lying: We'd All Know If Your Spouse Was That Bad
- Myth: It Takes "Two to Tango" and "All Marriage Problems are 50/50"
- How to Handle Criticism When You Divorce (video-3 parts) Natalie Hoffman, Gina Kaye
Children and Divorce: Researchers Give Hope
- Is it Best to “Stay for the Kids”? Sometimes, yes. But Not if It’s a Toxic Marriage
- Researchers Know Your Kids Will Likely Be Fine After Life-Saving Divorce
- 5 Studies That Say Your Kids are Likely to Be Okay After Divorce (video)
- Marriage Does Not Guarantee Good Kids: 1 in 10 Kids from Married Two-Parent Homes are Troubled.
- Myth 21: Divorce will Destroy Your Children, So Stay for the Sake of Your Kids
High Conflict Divorce and Parenting
- Research shows: Your Kids Will Likely Be Fine After Divorce: In Fact It’s Best to Divorce to Get Away From Abuse
- 12 Ways to Document and Protect Yourself in a High-Conflict Divorce
- 12 Tips for Talking with Angry, Alienated Kids
- Myth: Divorce will Destroy Your Children, So Stay for the Sake of Your Kids
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Common Myths
- Myth: Your Marriage Would Be Great if You Just Submitted More
- Myth: Divorce will Destroy Your Children, So Stay for the Sake of Your Kids
- Myth: Divorce is the Unpardonable Sin and "God Hates Divorce"
- Myth: You Just Didn't Try Hard Enough
- Myth: You Don't Take God-Ordained Marriage Seriously
- Myth: Your Divorce Will Shatter the Image of Christ and the Church
- Myth: You Must Forgive and Forget Over and Over, Forever
- Myth: 95% of Divorces are for Falling Out of Love
- 27 Myths about Divorce That Probably Don't Apply to Committed Christians
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